My wedding is in February. My colors are shades of green, pale yellow, cream, and splashes of orange. The ceremony and reception site is a rustic barn.(not redneck)
Do you match the bridesmaids dresses to the flowers or flowers to dresses?
What color bridemaids dresses look good with these colors?
Do the bridemaids buy their own dresses?
Can I just have bridesmaids with no maid on honor? I don't want to hurt any of my friends feelings, you know how girls are.
I've never helped anyone plan a wedding so Im kinda dumb about this stuff. Thanks ya'll
4 wedding color questions...?
First off, you're not dumb. You're starting a learning curve, yes, but there's a big difference between ignorance and stupidity, and that's that ignorance can be cured. Don't put yourself down for not knowing this stuff by osmosis. Everyone has to learn it somewhere.
So, let's take these one at a time:
You could have all bridesmaids, but honestly most women aren't horribly catty about not beng picked as maid of honor. Also, the maid of honor is usually the bride's right-hand woman who helps with decisions, holds your hand, and helps make sure everyone is doing whatever needs doing in a timely manner. If you want a second-in-command, I strongly suggest picking your most reliable friend and asking her to be maid of honor. Also, one of the duties of the maid of honor is to sign the marriage license as a witness. If you do not designate a maid of honor, you're still going to have to decide who stands next to you in the ceremony and signs that license.
Just a couple things to think about.
Me? I've been a rank-and-file bridesmaid twice and maid of honor once. I never did see any resentment or hurt feelings over who got picked or who didn't.
Yes, in the US it is customary for the bridal attendants on both sides to pay for their own outfits. The bride picks the bridesmaids' dresses and either the bride or groom picks what the men will wear. Do your best to keep your bridesmaids' pocketbooks in mind when you choose outfits.
Also, while it is your option to choose what shoes, jewelry, hairstyles, etc. your bridesmaids wear, they will be a lot happier if you either leave these choices up to them, give them some leeway (ie: tell them what color and heel size of shoes to get and let them choose whatever fits their taste and budget), or provide what you ask for (pay for hair/nail appointments, give wedding jewelry as a thank you gift).
The best way to deal with the dress/flower dilemma is either to pick one of your colors for the bridesmaids' dresses and pick flowers in the same color range that will go with them, OR choose the flowers you want in the bouquet if that's what you feel more strongly about, and then decide which color bridesmaid dress will look best with them.
In this case, I'd advise you to pick a shade of green, use that for the dresses, and then make the bouquets out of flowers that are pale yellow and cream with a couple splashes of orange in them. Feel free to use that idea or to reject it out of hand.
Most of all, relax and have fun with your plans. Yes, there's a lot to do, but you've got time and you'll quickly learn what you need to know.
What's more, you'll have a lovely wedding at the end of it.
Best of luck to you!
Reply:You can have all BM's with no MOH. That's fine.
The dress color is up to you and your BM's. I would pick the color that looks best on them (I'm guessing the green color is the safest but your gals might prefer the orange or yellow).
The flowers can then be a mix of the colors or just 1, whatever you prefer.
The BM's pay for their own attire.
Have Fun!
Reply:I would match the flowers to the dresses. Dress colors...I would go with the pale yellow or a pale orange, maybe peach kinda color...that sounds very pretty. Yes, bridesmaids generally buy their own dresses. And yes, you can also just have bridesmaids...I can understand not wanting to hurt anyone by picking one person in specific to be the maid of honor. When I get married, i'm just going to have bridesmaids that way nobody gets hurt.
And by the way, Congrats!!!
Reply:I would match the flowers to the dresses.
I think that brown dresses with a colored sash would look great, then they could have really colorful bouquets. If you want to stick with one of your colors, I'd go with creme or green.
You don't need to have a maid of honor, but someone will have to sign your marriage license. Have them pick straws or something.
Reply:I'll answer all your questions in order:
1. Pick a bridesmaid dress that is one of those four colors. Preferably not the orange, and probably not the cream (too close to your own dress). The flowers you choose will flatter the bridesmaid dresses and will incorporate all of those colors. A wildflower bouquet would be great.
2. Again, pick a dress that IS one of those colors. See, when people talk about their wedding colors, they are referring to what the bridal party is wearing and holding. If your bridesmaid dresses are another color altogether, then you really have five colors. And keep in mind that the color of the bridesmaid dresses is the only wedding color that people will notice.
3. Yes, they buy their own. Please try to keep the dresses between $150 and $200.
4. You could have no maid of honor. However, even if you don't assign a maid of honor, one of the gals will still be the one standing and walking closest to you. Everyone will think she is the maid of honor, so she might as well be.
Reply:Oh, I LOVE your colours - they will be so pretty, and fun to decorate with.
You match the flowers to the dresses. I think it would be nice to have burnt orange dresses, or a nice shade of green. Then in either case, the flowers can be a beautiful mixed bouquet of different flowers with your chosen colours.
Bridesmaids usually buy the dresses, as long as it is a decent price - usually around 100. If you are adamant on having something way pricier, then kick in the balance.
Yes, you can have just all bridesmaids.
Reply:Remember it's your day so you can do absolutely anything you want. There is no set in stone thing that you must do.
I would choose the flowers first especially if you have certain types of flowers that you want. Then, I would suggest picking one of the shades of green for the dresses. Yellow and cream might be too close to your white dress (I'm assuming it's white or off white) and orange might be too loud.
Most of the time bridesmaids buy their own dresses, but my mom bought the dresses for the bridesmaids for my sister's wedding as a nice gesture. It all depends on your budget.
Sure, you don't have to have a maid of honor. However, there are a few things in the ceremony that the maid of honor traditionally takes care of - holding the bride's bouquet during certain parts, smoothing out the bride's dress after she moves etc. You can just choose one of the girls to do those things without putting a label on it, or you could just adjust your ceremony to sort of edit out those jobs (have some sort of table to place the bouquet on, smooth out your own dress etc. : ) )
I hope this helps you. Congratulations. I'm sure it will be beautiful!
Reply:well try to match the dresses even if you do a lite purple it might blend in with the colors normally the bride pays for the dresses and then the girls just put the money in the envelope to repay... depends on how they feel about it and of course you need a maid of honor otherwise who ever goes first is going to have to hold your flowers while your switching rings for the ceremony I'm sure they will be fine with who ever you pick and if you can pick a friend pick a relative they cant fight with that :)
Reply:You kinda want to match the dresses and the flowers, incorporate them all but be minimalistic when it comes to flower colors. If anything you should have white/cream as the main color and have little sprigs or a few flowers in those other colors.
I would say lime green dresses with a cream sash.. and maybe some white/cream, green and little splashes of orange in the bouqet.
Yes they do, dont cost urself any more expence..
Im sure that you can get away with no maid of honor. I totally agree, because i was thinking the same thing... You really dont want ot pull any favorites when it come to ur friends.. However, if you have a sister or a close cousin, then those are the exceptions.
Reply:1. Usually the flowers and the dresses are in contrasting colors - for example if you have green gowns, I would use the yellow, cream and orange for your flowers (actually that's exactly what I would do!)
2. see above
3. Usually yes, the bridesmaids buy their own dresses. That being said it doesn't mean that the bride can't buy them or at least kick in towards them if her budget allows for it.
4. You will need to have one bridesmaid as an official 'witness' for signing the marriage certificate, etc. I am sure if you sit down with your maids and explain the situation they will understand why one of them needs to be the 'honor attendant'. They may even come up with a fun way to decide who it should be.
Good Luck and have fun - it's not as hard as it seems!
Reply:I'm getting married in June and my colors are citrus colors: yellow and green. You go with what you think looks the best. I would say that green and orange dresses would probably blend in better with the rustic barn. You can have bridesmaid with no maid of honor. Or, if they are equally special to you, have them all be maids of honor. Thats what I'm doing. Match the flowers with the dresses. (i.e. yellow dress: green and orange flower combo; green dress: orange and yellow with green leaves combo).
I've planned weddings before so if you need anything, just email me.
Congrats, Good Luck, and God Bless
Reply:Just me, but I think its horribly tacky to make the bridesmaids buy their own dresses.
For my wedding, I paid for it; of course, I also kept it simple by having just one attendant.
You don't have to specifiy a maid of honor, but you will have to have two witenssess sign your marriage certificate for the State-- so one way or the other you'll have to have one bridesmaid and one groomsman singled out.
*You could just nominate the gal based on penmanship though!
Reply:Whichever you find first or like the most! I think its usually flowers to dresses but whatever you want! Good luck and CONGRATS!
Reply:Traditionally you match the flowers to the dresses, not the other way around.
I would go with the green or yellow bridesmaid dresses but you want to evaluate your girls skin tones and see what color will look best on all of them. Also, you want to choose a color that will stand out in comparison with the atmosphere (you don't want to dress them in red or dark orange if they'll be standing next to a red or rusty colored traditional barn... you know what I mean?)
Yes, the bridesmaids should pay for their own dresses, that is one of the responsibilities you take when you accept the position.
And yes, you can go without a maid of honor... but remember that you will have to have someone fulfill her duties (signing as a witness at the ceremony, holding your bouquet, etc.)
I had quite a bit of bridesmaid drama for my wedding... I think it's inevitable!
Congrats on your wedding! :o)
Reply:well usually you would buy the dresses first and match the colors to the dresses.
Yes they do buy there own dresses as for the groomsman and anyone one else getting tuxedos pay for there own tuxes.
I'd get the color dresses you'd like, match or do whatever with the vest of the tuxedos, and then do the flowers and colors. Yeah you can have bridesmaids with no maid of honor unless the groom has a best man.
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