Simple and Fun wedding ideas for doubtful Guy?

Alrighty,

Well me and my guy are not even engaged yet but I am being hopeful. He knows I want a wedding and dreads the thought because he thinks it will be so stressful and crazy. I want the ceremony just to share with our friends and family but I want it REALLY simple, fun and personal. So I am trying to come up with ideas so I can plan things now so when the time comes, it will be easy and not traumatic on him. LOL Here's what I have so far:

-It's going to be pretty informal, he can wear whatever he wants, I found a simple but not elaborate wedding dress already

-It's going to be at a local vineyard we both like-There is absolutely gorgeous scenery so we won't need flowers

-The ceremony will be really short and I don't think we are going to include bridesmaids or groomsmen

-We will have the reception at our place and just have it catered by our fave restraunt.



He loves Budweiser (collects it) and Tennesee (Go Vols) so, I think I want to theme the reception like that.

Simple and Fun wedding ideas for doubtful Guy?
STOP! You're doing exactly what he is dreading. You're planning a wedding. If he's not ready to get married and you are, then either you wait patiently on him.....or move on and find someone else who actually is ready for marriage.



Your plan is just pretend and you're denying the fact that this is not happening. I really don't mean to be ugly, but you are grown and it's time to stop playing pretend.
Reply:Hi.



I love your ideas and you already have lots of decisions made. I absolutely LOVE the idea of the vineyard.....how nice.



My only suggestions would be:

~ don't let him wear "whatever he wants." It doesn't need to be a tux....but it is a wedding, after all, not just "another day." Go together shopping so at least he is in dress pants, a nice shirt and tie. If it were me, I would have him wear a suit....but you know him better.



~ I'm glad he likes Budweiser and Tennessee, but I wouldn't use this as a "theme." That will seem more like a fraternity party than a wedding. Perhaps incorporate one of these....such as a topper on the cake of a Budweiser can or something like that.....but that is as far as I would go with those ideas. Again, it's a wedding....you want to remember it as such.



~ I totally love the small, intimate setting....no bridal party.....catered by your favorite restaurant.....all those are great ideas. You are on the right path to making it stress free for him.



~ You do NOT need a maid of honor or best man, but you will need two witnesses to sign the marriage license. This can be ANYONE who witnesses the marriage. So, don't get pushed into having attendants if you don't want to.



~ I would carry a very, very simple (3 roses tied with a silk ribbon?) bouquet. And get your groom a boutonniere.



Good luck!
Reply:I would wait on all the planning. Most men dread the planning process, so it's nice that you want to get a jump on it but wait until you have the commitment from him that a wedding is a go. All this planning, with the engagement established, will get you antsy and him feeling pressured.



But...to answer your question...you could have the wedding party dressed in the colors of the Vols and large Bud beer steins at the bridal table and mini-Bud shot glasses as a gift for your individual guests.

Good luck!