I am the step mpther of the bride. can I wear a black gown with silver/gray flowers and accents on the bodice?

The wedding is formal, my husband will be wearing a black tux... it is at 4:00 PM followed by a reception with dinner and dancing..... the skirt of the gown is black but does have the same flowers and bead work running the length of the dress down one side/front.

I am the step mpther of the bride. can I wear a black gown with silver/gray flowers and accents on the bodice?
NO, you wear what ever the bride asks you to....Wher are you from?
Reply:sounds like a beautiful gown.

Why not ask your step daughter what she thinks? If she doesn't like the idea of black, start shopping.

(*ps, there are all kinds of places where you can rent gowns in any size if you can't afford to buy one or don't want to), and no one has to know...
Reply:Ask the bride first; but I don't see why not. When my fiance's brother got married, I wore a floor length black gown. I was the one who handed out the programs and I did a reading, so it wasn't like I was hidden in the corner. Black is classic, not just for mourning.
Reply:I wouldn't -- too dark. If it were reverse colours, then maybe, but even then I would think about it. Wear something HAPPY and elegant!
Reply:If the bride doesn't mind, why should anyone else? When my partner and I are married, I am thinking of having a black, white and gold theme for our wedding - bridesmaids in black and white dresses, or black dresses with white flowers. Your dress and your husband's outfit sound very smart and I am sure your stepdaughter will be pleased.
Reply:Ummm, I would be upset if I was the bride and my step mother chose to wear black. That's just me though, I think you need to talk to her.
Reply:No!
Reply:no, that would be very disrespectful of the bride, when someone wears black to some ones wedding it means you don't approve of it at all. Wear colors like blue or pink. Even white is good. Just don't wear black unless you don't want this wedding to happen.
Reply:My aunt wore a black dress to my wedding. I think it had 'birds of paradise' flowers on it. (it was awhile ago) .She asked if I minded. I didn't care. She was very well dressed, looked really nice.

Unless the bride really balks, then I should think that you will look as elegant as it sounds.
Reply:I would generally avoid wearing black at a wedding, unless that color scheme is the bride's choice. Even then, it would primarily be the bridesmaid dresses which would be black. Do you know what the bride's mother and the groom's mother going to be wearing? You might want to go with something similar - by that I mean that if they are wearing pastel colors, you might also want to. If they are wearing strong primary colors, you might also want to. Bottom line, if you are not sure about your dress - ask the bride.
Reply:ask the bride....I personally had a no black or white dresses for the moms cuz I didn't want anyone to think that one mom was "mourning" us marryin each other, some people would think that and they are both very happy about it all. and I just have to be the only one in a white dress, so anyway, show it to the bride and see what she thinks, she may think its georgeous, she may hate it, but its up to the 2 of you.
Reply:It sounds lovely, I'd run it by the bride first though
Reply:Now of course I think the bride should approve before you do, but I have seen full black and white weddings which were beautiful. And when my best friend got married her now husband's mother word a casual black dress and still looked amazing. There is nothing that says you can't. Just make sure not to step on the toes of the happy couple.
Reply:I would say yes, but some people are more picky about that then others. Your safest bet is to run it past the bride first and if she is OK with you wearing black then your good to go and don't even have to rethink it.
Reply:It depends on whether or not you want your step- daughter's marriage to last or not....J/K Black is a more formal color and permissable because it is an evening wedding. I would probably still okay it with the bride first though.
Reply:Black is certainly a formal color, and is permissable at an evening wedding. The dress sounds lovely. But just to be on the safe side, you may want to okay it with the bride.
Reply:that sounds good to me. the only rule i've heard about wedding attire is not to wear white, cause it seems like you'll be trying to take the attention from the bride. you're not doing anything like that so i dont see why not. have fun!
Reply:I have seen many women wear black to weddings (the mothers of the bride and groom did so at the last wedding I attended). The point is not to draw attention away from the bride and it doesn't sound like your dress will do so. Show her your support and I promise she will think nothing of the black dress.
Reply:i think your best option is to show it to the bride or wedding planner. Like I wouldn't want my mother in law to wear something that would make me feel bad, and if she would ask me before hand, I would really appreciate it. After all, it's her wedding, and is a very special day for her and her future husband, so there is no need to make her feel bad or sad in case she doesn't like the dress. i think a blackgownfor a wedding is not a good idea, but if it has silver flowers and accents i think it's fine, but again, it depends on her, so just show it to her and ask her if it's ok, she'll appreciate the trust and the gesture and you'll appreciate the feedback.
Reply:Why not....black is always in and you cannot go wrong with it, it sounds like a lovely dress...have a great time!
Reply:I don't think you should wear black but you should try to coordinate with the wedding colors a little bit. But if that's the last resort then fine. As long as it looks good!



Good Luck
Reply:I wouldnt wear black to a wedding, no matter how pretty the dress is. Try something with a lighter color.
Reply:It sounds lovely however the thought is to make sure that you do not out dress the mother of the bride. Traditionally you are not supposed to wear black to a wedding but few follow tradition any longer and the bridesmaids now often wear black
Reply:your dress sounds smashing, but it may not be appropriate for the occasion. Try something a bit more subtle.
Reply:i wouldn't wear black to a wedding, but if its what you have then i would i don't think it would look bad at ll it sounds like a really pretty outfit
Reply:Black at a wedding is kinda morbid. Do you wear pink to funerals?
Reply:Come on, guys trying to answer questions about the bride's view and the wedding. WHATEVER. (had a wedding) So I speak from experience. At my wedding the last thing on my mind was what everyone else was wearing. AS long as you don't have on a fancier dress than the bride and as long as you aren't wearing black as a statement of how you feel towards the bride there is no problem. The way you described the dress seems like it'd be pretty. (and some people do where pink to funerals). Although the wedding is about what the bride wants. so You may want to ask her opinion, just so there will be no problems. But I think it will be fine.