Help me please?

im getting marride next feb but i dont have a clue were to start! ive booked the wedding and reception and made my cards but my mum isnt helping me so im a bit lost in what to get organised now. i no what flowers i want and i no what colours im having. were booking the honeymoon 2moz. do i leave everything else for later in the year or what? plus instead of gifts. were just asking for either nothing or a contribution to our honeymoon is that cheeky. were not the type of people to ask people for things. please help me thankx

Help me please?
Best thing to do is buy a couple of brides magazines or look at websites like www.confetti.co.uk and you will find check lists that are REALLY helpful. Try not to get stressed, take your time and do what you want to do, organising what you can, and asking others to help when necessary. The magazines and websites will give you lots of tips on honeymoons, presents etc. too... Good luck.
Reply:Get some close friends in to help you. Not too much else to do at present but make a list and keep it handy so you can tick off the jobs as they are dealt with. A little note with the invitations saying that you would appreciate donations towards your special day instead of gifts should be acceptable. Get the bank to organise this for you and they will be able to give you a list of those who donate anything.



Book a photographer and cars fairly soon. And start looking out for The Dress. Speak to the florist and warn them about what flowers you prefer (could be out of season and hugely expensive).



Have a wonderful day next Feb and relax and enjoy your planning with friends.
Reply:Hey, first of all congrats on your engagement, i'm getting married myself in September. if you cannot get any support from your mother then the bridesmaids/Maitron of honour should traditionally be the one to give you help and support on the run up to the Wedding in making any decisions that basically your partner cannot help you with. never mind magazines in making your final bookings, go to wedding fares most importantly as some of the weeding mags can be decieving. Research research research. Try and book everything as soon as possible simply so you can concentrate more on you as the bride(most important).

don't ask the guests for anything don't even mention gifts, assume that the guests will know if you are living together beforehand therefore the guests will know that 'money' to be crude,will be the gift of choice, if anyone does bring you a toaster, SEND THEN HOME!!!!!

GOOD LUCK!!!!!!
Reply:Traditionally the newly wedded couple received wedding gifts with the idea to help them out in setting up a household, but in these times with the people marrying rather late in life and most of them well settled in their households in variety of settings are not in desperate need of another blender or toaster.



Like everything else the gift giving style has changed for weddings. First it was the wedding registries where the couple registered for the items that they thought they needed to start in married life which was considered pretty tacky in some circles but people got over it and now it has become almost a norm. In fact, whoever does not register with some sort of wedding service is considered strange. The wedding registries like everything else evolved from modest to outrageous depending on ones social status and financial position.



Then came the celebrity and rich or ultra rich “charity donation” concept, since these people could afford most things in life and then some more, they did not need to set up a humdrum household.



Finally now is the time of “money” wedding gifts, although it has been around for centuries for instance bride or grooms parents or rich relatives helping out with money gifts on the wedding day. In many countries it is a tradition to give “money” to the groom and bride on their wedding, for example in South East Asian cultures.



What is considered “Tacky” is the actual statement that the couple would like to have a monetary gift. There are many ways to get creatively around this sticky subject. The bride and grooms friends can drop a hint something like “ you know they are saving for a down payment on a car or a house etc”.



There are many places that the guests can register for monetary wedding gifts rather than the traditional gifts. There are certain banks that have wedding registries for the couple where a money gift can be made towards a down payment on a house.



It is only a matter of time when the “money” gifts will not be a controversial subject and will be widely accepted in western culture.
Reply:Its not cheeky at all to ask for a contribution, I am planning on doing the same as myself and my fiance have been together 5 years so already have many of the 'traditional' wedding gifts.

Also, wedding dress shops ask for you to be looking for a dress(including bridesmaids) at least 6 months before the wedding, that way alterations can be done, as sometimes they can take longer than estimated, the guys stuff is easier, they can walk into a tailors the week before and get theirs, for the bride its not that easy.

Check out www.confetti.co.uk they have answers to everything you could possibly think of, lists of suppliers in your area and everything else you could possibly need!!

Good luck x x x
Reply:if you do not want gifts , than you can ask for money in a very nice way so that you can book your hols for honeymoon and may be you might have some left over and you can use that for some other use around your home,
Reply:Not cheeky to ask for money, that's what you want.

I would make a list of all the things that you want to organise for your wedding, and then start looking into what you want.

Have you found your dress?

Do you know who you want for bridesmaids and what they will wear?

Have you booked all your venues, ie church /registry office, reception etc.

Flowers, jewellry for the day. Do you know what hairstyle you want, what make up you are doing. these things may need to be booked in for the day of your wedding.

Have a think about every little detail.
Reply:Have a honeymoon registry! It is totally free and it will help people choose where their money goes. Here is a link to mine. People don't know about it yet, that's why there is nothing purchased! Once on the site, you have to click on Honeymoon registry right beside wedding details. Oh, and don't forget to buy the dress of your dreams...that's a really important detail!
Reply:OOOO congratulations!!!



Now that u have a venue, u should prob book ur photographer, florist, and band as u dnt want to risk not getting the one u want. also u could start on all the place cards, table names etc now and just put them away.



do as much now so u can enjoy the build up stress free!



Also, contribution honeymoon is not cheeky at all! ur guests WANT to give u gifts, u could also set up a donations to a charity if u dnt want presents??

Hope this helps.

enjoy ur day

x
Reply:Here's what you'll be needing:

Place of wedding: apparently done and booked

Place of reception: apparently done and booked

Guest List: start discussing with hubby-to-be

Maid of honour: you'll need someone to help you! Find one now!

Best man: same thing for fiancee



Catering: around Dec or Jan

Flowers: Feb

Your dress: later in the year

Bridal mags: now!

Bridesmaids: Summer

Invitations: hand them out around summer if u want

Stylist: start looking around July

Photographer: Summer



Good Luck with the planning- and remember- breathe!
Reply:Shut off the computer and go find and order your dress now. My daughter, the wedding consultant, says it takes 6 months to make a wedding dress and you could need twice that amount of time just to find the dress you want.
Reply:Get your photographer and video man if you want one. Also your entertainment - band, DJ. I'm booked up on Saturdays well into 2009 for photogrpahy. My nephew in Ireland has bookings for weddings going into 2010.



You obviously need a wedding dress - bridesmaids and their outfits.



I don't think it cheeky to ask for a contribution towards your honeymoon



Make a list of everything but don't leave anything until the last minute.



When getting your photographer ask to see his portfolio and get quotes.



As for the entertainment if you're having any book on recommendation/reputation and ask for references or people you contact. Bad entertainment will spol the evening.
Reply:It's a good thing that you have given yourself so much time. It will help you avoid a lot of last minute stress...that is of course if you do not procrastinate.

Since you know the colors you want you can start looking for the bridesmaid dresses. Have you asked your bridal party yet? A word of advice, wait a while to see how your friends react to your engagement. I didn't listen to my friend when she advised me to wait a few months after the engagement to ask the bridesmaids...she asked them right away and had a problem...so did I. But, it all depends on your friends.

You can also start looking at dresses for yourself...that's the best part!

Think about how you want your reception decor to look. Do you want floral centerpieces? Do you want them low, medium, tall in height?

Start to research a photographer. Here is a list of questions you should ask them. http://www.weddingphotousa.com/questions...

You can also research a videographer if you are planning to use one.

Think about your music. Do you want a live band? DJ?

Basically you have a lot of time to do research so you can find the best vendors and the best bargains. Just get started on things and it will all fall into place.

Best of luck :)
Reply:Id think your doing a good job. You have more done then girls that are getting married this year! DOnt stress it will all work out. And since you dont want gifts thats a great idea.