How do deal with this marital problem.?

My husband and I went to a wedding this weekend. I was part of the wedding party and had my pretty dress and my flowers and felt very pretty. We had sex the night before the wedding so therefore he had been fulfilled. I danced the night away at the reception with him and with friends. There was one girl there we've met b4, she's friends with a family members. She's young she's single and she's pretty cool. M husband thinks this too. I thought I looked sexy %26amp; that my husband (5 years) is in to me. WRONG - I saw he and this girl were winking at each other and flirting. They were next to each other alot. We talked about it today and he did say he's felt elt attracted to her b4 but the drinking made it worse. Now he says he's sorry he disrepected me and our marriage and wants to go to counseling. I don't know what to do. I suggested he call her %26amp; say "You and I disrepectfed my wife %26amp; marragie and it will NOT happen again, I love my wife, she did not deserve that" Any Thoughts?

How do deal with this marital problem.?
Hi there. Well i can see how you would be completely upset etc, this would hurt me more than words. Flirting, cheeky smiles, winking, this too me would dishonour our vowels to each other. He needs to call her and you need to be with him when he does, if he calls her it proves how much he does in fact love you and how sorry he is. Its worse because you were there and you witnessed the whole thing. I dont know if i would go to councelling, but he does need to make it up to you. Just because he is attracted to someone doesnt mean he can act on this, there are pretty girls out there !! but he is married to you, i dont know if i have too much advise for you but to tell him how much this has hurt you. I would even play up on it and make him feel real bad by saying i made sure i looked beautiful for you and now i feel unattractive. Make him beg for forgivness. Good luck.
Reply:I think he is trying to tell u something by sugg counciling. I think you need to listen

I'm going to tell you again. When a man brings up counciling you need to listen. The vast majority of us want nothing to do

with that. The reply you wrote to michelle concerns me, you obviously have problems in your marriage and rubbing his nose in it will not make them go away. He's gonna stray if you don't get help, it's only a matter of time.
Reply:I would say that going to counseling would be a great idea. Then, you can ask the therapist what he/she thinks about your idea about calling her up. Therapy is always a good idea anyway. If there are any other issues at all you are dealing with, you can bring it up in there and have a better chance of a healthier relationship. Good luck to you...and I know you are hurting right now.
Reply:Having him call her isn't gonna solve anything. I'm sorry that happened to you, but it could be a sign that he is pulling away from you. Goto counseling. It may be your best bet.
Reply:The guy has already apologized and agreed to go to counseling. It seems like it was a one-time thing and he's sorry. Maybe you should wait a day or two and cool off; it seems like you're making an awfully big deal of this.
Reply:at least your husband was open with you and admittied he done wrong so give him some credit he is willing too get help. as for him calling the girl it will only make matters worse.
Reply:At least he admitted it, i would give counselling a go and see what happens.

As for her.........if it wasnt a wedding i wouldve dragged her outside and kicked her ***, so instead i would wait till u see her again and give her the *** whooping of her life then your hubby wont find her at all attractive with no teeth in her head!
Reply:Your opinion of that he should be making the phone call was right on the money. He should put her on notice that he has talked it all over with you and that it will not be happening again in this lifetime. Now as far as counseling? People on here are very fast to advise this as though it is the only thing that will help. That just burns me up as I personally know that no counselor is going to tell you anything that you both don't already know and to be quite honest, some advice given from some therapist's is dead wrong. If your relationship has been strong thus far with no indiscretions, then why can't it remain there once this single offense is brought to a close? If you feel that your husband is truly honest and sorry for his actions, then simply place all of this behind you and enjoy your lives to they're fullest. I mean hell, he didn't cheat. He smiled and winked for God's sake. Sure it was something that shouldn't have happened, but it's not like he actually stepped out. Now is it? Just let him know up front that should it ever happen again, more drastic measures will be taken. Then let it drop. Best of luck.