Mother Getting Married, Help!!?

My mother (52) is getting married for the second time on April 20th. They are getting married at the courthouse. My sister and I want to put together a small reception for her afterwards. It would really be a cook out. But I was thinking it would be nice to have them cut a cake and do a toast. I have a couple questions.

1. I am pretty handy with baking but I have never made a wedding cake and I’m not even sure where to begin. I obviously don’t want to spend hundreds of dollars on a cake (there will only be like 10 people at the “reception.”) Do you think it would be too much trouble and cost too much for me to attempt to make a very small two tier wedding cake? Has anyone made one? Any advise?

2. Is it okay to let her use the things I used at my wedding (ie. The cake cutting set or is that just strange?)

3. My sister thinks that all the women should be holding flowers. I was planning on getting a small bouquet for my mother but I don’t see why everyone else needs flowers.

Mother Getting Married, Help!!?
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If you are only doing a 2 tier cake, and you have never made a wedding cake, you may be better off going to your local grocery store and having them put one together for you. They are usually done very nicely and pretty cost efficent. Not to mention less hassle for you. i.e. http://www.publix.com/custom/wedding/Cat...



The cake cutting set is no big deal. If it is something you truly love and think your mother would like I say go for it. It is sort of like you handing something down to her as she would do for you. Nothing wrong with keeping it in the family.



As for the flowers, I think you could go either way with it. Ask your mom and see what she thinks. If nothing else, you could each hold a single flower or 2 that go with her bouquet.
Reply:If you decide to make the cake I would definitely do a trial run (you definitely don't want to run into problems just before the reception. Compare the price of putting it together twice vs. going to the grocery store, bakery.



As for the gift, I would go with your mom's passion. If she's passionate about cooking get her something from Williams Sonoma, if it's entertaining go for crystal or some other fancy dish. Whatever it is try for something that she'll use and absolutely adore, but wouldn't buy for herself.
Reply:Can't help you about the cake. Maybe check with a local grocery store - like Safeway, and see if they can do it for you. It'll cost way less, and their cakes are good. I'm a great baker, too, but I would worry about making a two-tier thing with the supports and stuff.

Of course you can use the things you used at your wedding! That will be nice.

Just get flowers for your mom to hold and a nice boutinniere for the groom.
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Reply:okay.... we'll go in order. I've done a few weddings myself, and my advise is, KEEP IT SIMPLE!

Why not get a plate of Petite fors? They are small pieces of cake and you can have them decorated with flowers. you can get a platter of some kind and arrange them like you want. you might spend $30 for 10 people!

I think it's perfectly okay to use your cake server if you have cake... WHO CARES?!?! You could even use some of those silver platters you got for your wedding *well most people get them* to put the food on at the reception!

As for the bouquet I did something cute once... find out how many women will be at the wedding... then make small groups of flowers, tie them with a small piece of ribbon and add a little tag that has a good fortune for the woman. Put all of the flowers together to make a bouquet for your mom. then when the wedding is over she can give the little flowers with the good wishes to all of the women there.

If I were you'd I would get your mom a simple piece of jewelry with an engravable tag on it... like from "Things Remembered" like this.... http://www.thingsremembered.com/webapp/w...

you can have her new monogram or new name put on it. It will show her that you accept her new journey, I think secretly they all wonder what we think of them getting married...

At the end of the day the best gift is your time, commitment, love and attention to detail.