Vow Renewal?

My husband and I didn't get to have a 'real' wedding. Some people that didn't like us and whom we had purposefully not invited decided they were going to crash in a literal way. They talked about destroying our wedding site. So we had to alter our plans drastically, most of my family and his couldn't make it and the majority of our friends. We had talked about having another wedding, a real one with the dress (I wore pants the first time around), flowers and whatnot, but I'm starting to have doubts. Is having another wedding selfish? Should we just have a reception-type party that our family and friends can come to? Or should we for-go it altogether and just get on with our lives? I never wanted a big ta-do until I couldn't have one, and now I feel like I missed out. We didn't even get to have wedding photos. I'm just feeling kind of lost and my husband is mostly doing this I think to please me. Is a big ceremony and reception okay in these circumstances?

Vow Renewal?
It's YOUR day so have whatever the heck you want. I got married at the courthouse and haven't regretted it. We will have been married 10 years next July and we plan on having a small outdoor ceremony. You can have a small wedding with just family and have a big reception. That way you get your wedding, reception and pictures at a fraction of the cost of a big shindig. I wish you the best.
Reply:not selfish and very understandable I think if you have the money to do it you should, and just try to have it some where you can be sure ppl like that can't trash anything this time round , a church or rent a lodge somewhere that somebody will be there before your wedding or will be resposable for it other then you.
Reply:You should do what you want to do, don't do it for your friends and family. If you decide to have the wedding, do it the way that you want it done and it is not being selfish at all.
Reply:Vow renewals are a great opportunity for people to have the day of their dreams if they have had a terrible experience such as you did. People will always talk about you whatever you do, you cannot please everyone, so just please yourselves and have the day that you want.
Reply:There is nothing wrong with renewing your vows and having a party. It's a celebration of your marriage and the fact that you've been able to survive whatever thoughtless rude people have thrown at you.



And make sure to get a beautiful outfit that you feel wonderful in and have someone there to take plenty of pictures.
Reply:Unfortunately people who crash weddings on purpose are just plain RUDE! There is no other word to describe it. I think you should have a small intimate renewal of vows. And DON'T invite anyone that you know will ruin your special day. My wedding was like yours... HORRIBLE! But in the end I got my king, and now I have a 5 year old prince. :)



good luck to you. ;)
Reply:A vow renewal is not the chance for 'another wedding'. You are already married, and whatever the circumstances were, I'm sure it was 'real' and that you are really married!

If you want a vow renewal ceremony, that's fine, you can do it at your church or another location like your home even, then basically throw an anniversary party - have family and close friends to your home for dinner and a party.

You wear a pretty dress, him a fine suit.

I hope you learn to stop the 'regrets' -