Help!!!!! My Sister is getting married 2 months before me!!!!!!?

I have been engaged for a year and a half our date set a year ago. My sister announced her engagement this summer and when she set her date I was shocked exactly 2 months before mine. I am very happy for her, but it seems like everything I told her before her engagement for Ideas and stuff she seems to now have the same ones (ie. reception locations, flowers, centerpieces, she even bid on my wedding dress Only in her colour, etc) Now it just seems to hurt more the more she reveals about her wedding plans. I love my sister But what am I gonna do?









Also she is one of my bridesmaids and I one of hers.

Help!!!!! My Sister is getting married 2 months before me!!!!!!?
The venue is understandable. The other things are just plain mean. Have you tried talking to her? If not, that is exactly what you need to do. If you can't change her mind about copying you, you'll either have to change your ideas or find some new ones. You could also help her find ideas that you think she might like more than yours.



Good Luck and remember that you are sisters and you love one another.
Reply:Well, that seems sort of tacky of her, but maybe she has a really good reason to get married before you do (like, could she be pregnant and she wants to get married before the baby comes?) As for the wedding plans sort of mirroring your own, maybe she doesn't realize that there are a lot of options out there when it comes to weddings these days. As her sister, maybe you can show her some of the options so she can be informed and have a wedding that best suits her personal style, instead of mimicking yours.



Bottom line: Everyone in your family knows you were engaged first, and the people closest to you already knew what your plans for your wedding were, so when she throws together an ill-planned wedding that vaguely resembles what you're going for, everyone will know who the copycat is. If you love each other, that's all that matters- 10 years from now, no one will even remember what either of your weddings looked like. Besides, don't forget that just 50 or so years ago, pretty much every wedding in America looked exactly alike- this whole thing about putting your personal stamp on your wedding day is kind of a new trend. Congrats!
Reply:I think you should bump your wedding before hers, that was very rude and selfish of her to pretty much "steal" all of your idea.
Reply:Oh my gosh. I feel so bad for you! What a rock and a hard place! I can only say that you should without a doubt talk to her about your feelings! If she can't see why you are upset then she has to be blind. What I am wondering is if there is any hidden agenda for why she is doing this...did you recently have a fight or a misunderstanding? Girl, I would talk to her! I can totally see why you're upset - that's just plain ridiculous - No one should have their wedding ruined.
Reply:Use it to your advantage of improving your own wedding.

People will compliment plenty at the time, but shortly after, you will hear rumors like: if it had been me... or I would have suggested... or I didn't want to hurt their feelings... and just all kinds of things. Same will be true of the good things, too.

Just be happy and keep your ears open and, just a thought, but won't it be fun having someone who will be able to share the new things to come since there is only 2 months difference.
Reply:Most of this would have me hot under the collar, but choosing your dress would have the steam coming out of my ears.



Does she know she has chosen the same dress? What was her reasoning for not choosing a different dress? What does your mother think about all of this?
Reply:Get over it--by the time 2 months goes by, so much of her wedding will be fond but fading memories.
Reply:ugh what a b**** sorry, but you need to do something about that. It's not fair to you. I would sit down and talk to her and tell her you are really upset that she is stealing all of your ideas.



You know what, if that doesn't work.... change your ideas ie.. centerpieces and things to something that is different and EVEN MORE beautiful than you had before. And don't tell her.
Reply:i see how you feel...I wouldnt be happy either...but why not talk to her and tell her how you feel. Shes your sister...Im sure she'll understand
Reply:Just remember "Imitation is the highest form of flattery"



Is she doing this to be spiteful, because she doesn't want to think for her self, so everything you do is good for her too, OR is it because she idolizes you so much, she wants to have everything you do?



Why don't you try talking to her, about changing some of her plans, and if she doesn't, then tell her that you're going to share the wedding with her, it's going to be identical to yours, and because hers is 1st, she might as well foot the bill... save yourself some money! :)



Good luck!!!!!!
Reply:That is a difficult situation. I found myself in a similar situation, but she wasn't my sister, but my the fiancee' of my fiance's brother.



Take her out to eat, and have a heart to heart. Ask her why she is trying to take your dream wedding piece by piece. If she just felt stuck, and couldn't think of her own ideas, offer to help her plan a different but equally beautiful day. Make sure you tell her how much your wedding means to you, and how much work and planning went into your wedding.
Reply:Wow, this is really tough. First off, I'll start by pointing out that it is a compliment to you and your taste. Lol, But that doesn't change the fact that what she is doing is very unfair to you. The best would be to have a talk with her and tell her your upset and how you feel. Make sure yu do not get mad and scream cause if some huge fight erupts over this, things will get said and before you know it, neither of you will be bridesmaids and that would be something you would regret for the rest of your lives.

If the talk doesn't help, you might have to stop telling your sister the details. What she doesn't know, she can't steal.

To be honest, other than what I have said I'm afraid you dont have too many options if you want to keep the peace.

I'll leave you with one last thought... I don't agree or justify what your sister is doing at all but keep in mind that planning a wedding is, believe it not, suppose to be fun. It is a time you will remember for the rest of your life and do you really want those memories to consist of you being mad with your sister.

Good luck and I wish you all the best!
Reply:You could be flattered she liked your ideas so much she used them. However, she should have been considerate and talked with you about it. Do you have family that will have to travel/make 2 trips? If so, that is absolutely insane. You got engaged first and you should get married first. What did your mom say about this? I think what she did is SO wrong. I would talk with her and try to talk her out of it.
Reply:Maybe have a quiet word with her?

But remember..this is gonna be your speacial day no matter what hun and no one can change that.

x
Reply:You could confront her about it, but now that I think about it...what good would that really do? The most you can do now is go on and make sure you have a good time at your wedding. Don't worry about stolen ideas, or what people will think. Just have a blast and become one with the man of your dreams.
Reply:First off, it's totally classless and rude for her to do this to you. I really does seem like she's trying to upstage you. There's something very wrong with her trying to use the same items, (gown, flowers, centerpieces, etc.) as you.



I would have a talk with her about this and see if she would be willing to move her date. If not she should at least change her wedding theme, gown, and location because they were your selections first.



If she is unwilling, my advice is to look into changing yours, (although it is pretty unfair for you to have to do so). But overall, I would try not to worry and stress. No matter what she does, try your best to enjoy your wedding day. I'm sure it will be a great day no matter what.



Best of luck and congratulations!
Reply:you say you love her but from what you're saying that really doesn't show.....
Reply:alop. that is so rude and taki of her.