I am getting married next year on Valentines day, I am trying to have a red and white reception. What kind of center pieces would be nice. Any suggestions thanks
Wedding flowers?
a friend of mine got married and uised carnations and mums they were beautiful. red/white. so mant things you can do. best wishes
Reply:go with whatever you enjoy if you want something inexpensive or something with a fragrance it all depends on that
Reply:Well center pieces don't have to be flowers you could use red candles and get fake pearls set them on the candle and use a hair dryer to heat it up a little and set the pearls into the candle.
Another idea is to use small fish bowls put red and white stones in them with a few feeder goldfish and let the guests take them home.
If you don't want the expense of real flowers you could buy fake and get almost any kind in any color.
Since it's on Valentines Day you could get heart shaped boxes glue ribbon and tiny flowers on them and fill them with dinner mints.
The last idea I can come up with right now is to take decorating wire shape them like hearts and wrap flowers on them with floral tape you can use real ofr fake if you choose fake you can do them now and that will be one less thing when it gets close to the big day.
Reply:Red roses and white calla lilies are a beautiful combination. I just didn't want roses at my wedding (my previous last name was Rose). I had tall 5" round vases with white tulips, you could use red, or a combo of both. The tulips were wound inside the vase with some of those sticks that florists use. It was really elegant. If you are interested in a pic, email me n8ivca@yahoo.com.
Reply:you have a few options.
- have a red overlay over a white tablecloth
- going with flowers - roses and or carnations arranged in a box look nice.
- helium balloons of differing lengths and in the colours you want
- a couple of goldfish (these can come in white!) in a small bowl (red gravel?!)
- candles (either red or white) in a nice holder (biggish ones similar to ones used in church) with a floral wreath around the bottom
- chocolate shaped hearts for guests
- rose petals scattered on the table
- red glitter hearts/angles/stars etc scattered on the table
hope this helps!
Reply:a glass bowl as the centerpeice with floating candles or candles with no water and red/white roses around it. the candles could add some romantic lighting! have fun!
Reply:A "Strawberry Margarita" Centerpiece Bouquet. Check them out at www.myfloralarrangements.com. They can be made in many colors including red and white. Congratulations!
Reply:There is a flower called the bleeding heart. They are tiny one inch heart shaped red flowers with a tiny white tear drop coming off the bottom of them. Very pretty. How appropriate for Valentines.
Reply:A heart shaped centerpiece with the red and white roses.
Reply:I love the look of red%26amp;white roses, but I've heard the price goes sky high on them around Valentines.
Reply:Clear glass bowls filled half way with water. Float red and white flowers and candles in them.
Reply:i love candles its setts a great atmosphere (romance)
Reply:Red roses and white carnations are beautiful. I also like red roses with white carnations.
Reply:Anything with hearts, red roses, red and white flowers, candy, candles, anything romantic like that!
Reply:There is a flower (in the Lilly family I think) that at the end of the pistol is a heart. If you can afford it perhaps a white one surrounded by red carnations would look classy.
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Tuesday, February 7, 2012
Which scriptures....?
In weddings, what scriptures in the Bible are read by the preacher during the ceremony.
"Dearly beloved, we are gathered here today to join these two in holy matrimony..."
Also, what parts of the Bible actually describe how a wedding ceremony is supposed to be arranged? Such as what the bride should wear, what the groom should wear, why we need flower girls and bridesmaids, what jumping over a broom is supposed to symbolize...etc. The only scriptures I found are basically about the reception, or the celebration after the two are married.
This question is not to offend anyone or cause an argument...I'm just curious.
Which scriptures....?
To answer your question, there is no "wedding text" in the Bible. Many pastors and priests do not use it anymore, preferring to use something more personal and applicable from the Bible reflecting the relationship of the soon to be married couple.
There are no ceremonies specifically detailed either, unless you count Esther's beautifying treatments before she became Queen.
On the topic of the actual marriage, the only thing it says is that a woman shall leave her family to go with the man, her new husband, and they shall become one - which means that they not only get to have sex (interesting that all the parts needed for this fit together like an interlocking Lego...), that your genes will combine to create a single human (your eventual child), but also refers to the joint decisions you will make for your lives-you are considered two halves of a whole by the community when it comes to public responsibility.
The Bible does, however, detail how a man should honor his wife and children in marriage, and visa verse. But that is after the fact.
The dearly beloved spiel is a text written to guide would-be "ministers" who must be accredited by the state to legally perform wedding ceremonies and issue marriage licenses. If you look closely, there is allot of legalese in the speech.
Much of what we call a traditional wedding really started back with Queen Victoria at the turn of the century. The popularization of the white dress, the diamond ring, the formal dinner, the rehearsal, etc., all stem from a fascination with her wedding before WW1.
The bridesmaids and men of honor are a throwback to an ancient Celtic tradition from Ireland, (whom Victoria ruled over) where they thought that evil spirits would attack the young couple to be...so friends and family dressed like the bride and the groom to confuse the evil spirits and lead them away from the couple. The shoes (or cans) tied to the back of a wagon/car also have to do with scaring away evil spirits. The flower girls are also part of a pagan tradition, but I forgot where it came from.
Throwing rice has to do with securing fertility for the couple. It is not a Christian tradition either.
Lighting a unity candle has to do with Catholic pageantry, and is not prescribed or mentioned anywhere in the Bible.
There is a book by Robert Fulcrum called, From Beginning to End: the Rituals of our Lives. He explains the history behind our most commonly observed rituals, including the wedding ceremony that literally, is less than 100 years old.
Most of your questions can be answered in his book. It's a beautiful read, and will give you new insight on what will make your wedding meaningful, and not just a copy of some fake "tradition". He is a Unitarian, and although I am personally a Christian, I think he handles the topic of God as part of a marriage with sensitivity and sound common sense.
I hope this helps you get started.
Reply:Your welcome :) Report It
Reply:Mav never seen it in bible. Mav have seen it in her Grandpa's old book of prayers.
Reply:"Dearly beloved, we are gathered here today to join these two in holy matrimony..." isn't from the Bible, it's just something that preachers say. There aren't any verses that say how a wedding ceremony has to be, it's just traditions that have been passed down. The important thing in marriage isn't how the wedding is, it's the committment between the two people. It doesn't matter if you get married in a church or on a beach or in a field... it matters that you are promising God and your partner that you will love each other unconditionally for as long as you are both living. A lot of times people at weddings will read from 1 Corinthians 13 (the 'love' chapter), that's the scripture that goes "love is patient, love is kind, it does not envy, it does not boast...." etc.
Reply:There is no scriptures stating what you said word for word, They use a marriage book, But we need to see, that our natural marriage can type our spiritual Marrige to Jesus at the wedding supper. %26amp; every country has their own marriage book. That does not take away the fact that they are married, These is Vows, %26amp; you are Vowing to God with people as your wittness
Reply:There are no scriptures in the Bible such as you describe. Various churches have, over the years, developed a wedding ceremony, and the traditional one you are thinking of is probably just a variation on one of those. They do not come from the Bible.
There is also no Biblical tradition for clothing, jumping over a broom, etc... Those are all cultural traditions. For example, the white wedding dress that is so popular today was actually made popular in the 19th Century by England's Queen Victoria, who chose a white gown in which to be married. Before that, the color of dress you wore was largely based on your tastes and local custom.
Most religious marriage ceremonies do quote from the Bible, but they quote from different parts. There are no set scriptures that are a must have part of a wedding ceremony. Certain churches may read scripture that is important to them, but that is based on their tradition and belief, not on any Biblical requirements.
Reply:Most often, weddings are performed according to local customs. The scriptures only act as a guide by the use of principles. For example, you asked about dress and grooming --- the scriptures speak of the value of modesty and so forth, it leaves room for personal taste but not at the expense of respect and dignity. It also speaks of not being overly concerned with the external braiding of hair, not that you wouldn't want your hair well arranged, but not so much as to bring too much attention on yourself, again, detracting from the dignity of the occasion.
The princilples in the Bible, rather than black and white rules, allow for our own personal taste, but within reasonable guidelines.
"Dearly beloved, we are gathered here today to join these two in holy matrimony..."
Also, what parts of the Bible actually describe how a wedding ceremony is supposed to be arranged? Such as what the bride should wear, what the groom should wear, why we need flower girls and bridesmaids, what jumping over a broom is supposed to symbolize...etc. The only scriptures I found are basically about the reception, or the celebration after the two are married.
This question is not to offend anyone or cause an argument...I'm just curious.
Which scriptures....?
To answer your question, there is no "wedding text" in the Bible. Many pastors and priests do not use it anymore, preferring to use something more personal and applicable from the Bible reflecting the relationship of the soon to be married couple.
There are no ceremonies specifically detailed either, unless you count Esther's beautifying treatments before she became Queen.
On the topic of the actual marriage, the only thing it says is that a woman shall leave her family to go with the man, her new husband, and they shall become one - which means that they not only get to have sex (interesting that all the parts needed for this fit together like an interlocking Lego...), that your genes will combine to create a single human (your eventual child), but also refers to the joint decisions you will make for your lives-you are considered two halves of a whole by the community when it comes to public responsibility.
The Bible does, however, detail how a man should honor his wife and children in marriage, and visa verse. But that is after the fact.
The dearly beloved spiel is a text written to guide would-be "ministers" who must be accredited by the state to legally perform wedding ceremonies and issue marriage licenses. If you look closely, there is allot of legalese in the speech.
Much of what we call a traditional wedding really started back with Queen Victoria at the turn of the century. The popularization of the white dress, the diamond ring, the formal dinner, the rehearsal, etc., all stem from a fascination with her wedding before WW1.
The bridesmaids and men of honor are a throwback to an ancient Celtic tradition from Ireland, (whom Victoria ruled over) where they thought that evil spirits would attack the young couple to be...so friends and family dressed like the bride and the groom to confuse the evil spirits and lead them away from the couple. The shoes (or cans) tied to the back of a wagon/car also have to do with scaring away evil spirits. The flower girls are also part of a pagan tradition, but I forgot where it came from.
Throwing rice has to do with securing fertility for the couple. It is not a Christian tradition either.
Lighting a unity candle has to do with Catholic pageantry, and is not prescribed or mentioned anywhere in the Bible.
There is a book by Robert Fulcrum called, From Beginning to End: the Rituals of our Lives. He explains the history behind our most commonly observed rituals, including the wedding ceremony that literally, is less than 100 years old.
Most of your questions can be answered in his book. It's a beautiful read, and will give you new insight on what will make your wedding meaningful, and not just a copy of some fake "tradition". He is a Unitarian, and although I am personally a Christian, I think he handles the topic of God as part of a marriage with sensitivity and sound common sense.
I hope this helps you get started.
Reply:Your welcome :) Report It
Reply:Mav never seen it in bible. Mav have seen it in her Grandpa's old book of prayers.
Reply:"Dearly beloved, we are gathered here today to join these two in holy matrimony..." isn't from the Bible, it's just something that preachers say. There aren't any verses that say how a wedding ceremony has to be, it's just traditions that have been passed down. The important thing in marriage isn't how the wedding is, it's the committment between the two people. It doesn't matter if you get married in a church or on a beach or in a field... it matters that you are promising God and your partner that you will love each other unconditionally for as long as you are both living. A lot of times people at weddings will read from 1 Corinthians 13 (the 'love' chapter), that's the scripture that goes "love is patient, love is kind, it does not envy, it does not boast...." etc.
Reply:There is no scriptures stating what you said word for word, They use a marriage book, But we need to see, that our natural marriage can type our spiritual Marrige to Jesus at the wedding supper. %26amp; every country has their own marriage book. That does not take away the fact that they are married, These is Vows, %26amp; you are Vowing to God with people as your wittness
Reply:There are no scriptures in the Bible such as you describe. Various churches have, over the years, developed a wedding ceremony, and the traditional one you are thinking of is probably just a variation on one of those. They do not come from the Bible.
There is also no Biblical tradition for clothing, jumping over a broom, etc... Those are all cultural traditions. For example, the white wedding dress that is so popular today was actually made popular in the 19th Century by England's Queen Victoria, who chose a white gown in which to be married. Before that, the color of dress you wore was largely based on your tastes and local custom.
Most religious marriage ceremonies do quote from the Bible, but they quote from different parts. There are no set scriptures that are a must have part of a wedding ceremony. Certain churches may read scripture that is important to them, but that is based on their tradition and belief, not on any Biblical requirements.
Reply:Most often, weddings are performed according to local customs. The scriptures only act as a guide by the use of principles. For example, you asked about dress and grooming --- the scriptures speak of the value of modesty and so forth, it leaves room for personal taste but not at the expense of respect and dignity. It also speaks of not being overly concerned with the external braiding of hair, not that you wouldn't want your hair well arranged, but not so much as to bring too much attention on yourself, again, detracting from the dignity of the occasion.
The princilples in the Bible, rather than black and white rules, allow for our own personal taste, but within reasonable guidelines.
Junior Bridesmaid..help!?
My fiance's sister is mad because I told her she won't be our flower girl because she'll be too old (she asked me if she could be, she'll be 12)
He has 2 brothers that are going to be his groomsmen.
I dont want her in my bridal party. I have issues with her. I think she's spoiled and has given me nothing but grief since I've been dating my fiance. (I've asked for advice on how to deal with her on here before too)
She cries when she doesn't get her way. And even though me and her brother have been together for a a year and a half she still gets jealous of our relationship even though he spends alot of time with her on their own. Usually if she sees us together she'll actually come up and kick me and try to pull him away from me.
I dont want to reward her behavior by having her in my wedding, and i also don't want her throwing fits at my ceremony and reception, but she'd be the only family left out and i feel a bad bc ..what should I do with her?
Junior Bridesmaid..help!?
She asked to be in your wedding party? How rude!!
You and your fiancee need to sit down and talk with her (perhaps his mother can help?). Explain to her how her behavior is the reason why you do not want her to participate. She is abusive toward you (kicking) and possessive of her brother. Tell her flat out you do not believe she can act like a lady should, so you do not want her to embarrass herself. Make sure you focus on her behavior, not on your opinion of her (even though she does sound spoiled).
She needs to understand being in a wedding party is not just a game, it's a responsibility. The wedding party is made up of people who will support the bride and groom through the wedding and beyond. Her behavior has shown you that she is not up to that responsibility.
I understand you do not want to cut her completely out because she is family. Perhaps there is some small thing she is capable of handling? Passing out programs or whatever so she is not totally excluded?
Good luck.
Reply:Tell her if she starts behaving then you will think about it, tell her the way she treats you why should you have her in it. Just tell her when she starts treating you better then you will start to think of her more often. She is old enough to understand.
Reply:Well, from your main question (Junior Bridesmaid...help?!) I'm assuming that you are considering having her as a jr bridesmaid- is that correct?
I think that would be a good position for her if you choose. You can have a serious talk with her about how this is a big responsibility etc. Then maybe she will want to act more grown up like the other bridesmaids.
If you don't want her as a jr BM, how about a candle lighter? Or guestbook attendant?
Reply:You have issues with a 12 year old? Well that kind of says something right there. Another thing that struck me reading this is, doesnt her jealous behaviour seem odd? Are there some strange family dynamics going on that you didnt mention? A 12 year old that kicks and throws fits- Ive never heard of such a thing.
Reply:Stick to your guns.....tell hubby to be to deal with his sister. It's not your problem, it's his. Don't feel bad....she hasn't felt bad about the problems she has caused for you so far, and you know there will be more to come.
Reply:Talk to her and explain why you do not want to have her in the wedding. Maybe you should have this conversation in front of her parents with your boyfriend present as well. Remember, this is your wedding day. As long as you and your b/f agree not to have her in the wedding, it is your choice! Good Luck!
Reply:Well, she's 12 years old! She's old enough to understand that her behavior has consequences. Explain to her and her parents that you don't believe she can behave like a mature person, and therefore will not be in the wedding party.
Reply:You can have her as your guest book attendant. Have her wear colors of your wedding, and have a guest book table. Ask her to stand at the table greeting people and asking them to sign the book. You should also have her walked down the isle behind the mother of the groom to make her feel special. Basically you need to be the more mature one.
Reply:she is 12! she is immature and that is why she acts like that. but you sound immature in the way that you are talking about her. you actually sound quite jealous. i think you should have her be a junior bridesmaid. what is the big deal about it? if she wants to help and have a part in the wedding maybe you two will start getting along better too.
Reply:I completely agree with you about not putting the brat in the wedding. She really is too old to be a flower girl, and if you don't want her to be a Jr. Bridesmaid, then don't let her. If she and your fiance are so close, ask him to talk to her. Get him to tell her why she can't be a flower girl, and that there are already enough bridesmaids. Then pull the "big brother" card and get him to say something like "this is a very special day for me, and I don't want you to give me a reason for me to be disappointed with you. You need to be on your best behavior, which means no throwing tantrums and making a scene. You are 12 not 2 and you know better than that". If he puts the guilt on her, it might work better than you or her parents doing it.
If you really feel like she should do something, you can let her be an usher or hand out wedding programs. That way she is helping and technically part of the wedding, but it's not a big role.
Reply:Your wedding party is supposed to be made up of people you are close to.
If I were in your situation, I would not put her in the wedding. You are right, behavior like that should not be rewarded. Even though she is still young at twelve, she should know that she shouldn't act that way.
Reply:you should tell her the truth, that you don't want her in your wedding because of the way she acts. If your wedding is a little bit off see if she changes her behavior after you talk to her and then ask her to be in the wedding (but only if things change).
Reply:You need to have your fiance talk to her about her behavior. Kicking you and acting like a brat isn't acceptable for someone's who's 4, never mind 11 years old.
If you made her a junior bridesmaid her only involvement would be to march down the aisle holding flowers and then go sit with her parents. Later she gets a few pictures snapped of her with the wedding party. All things considered, it would be an easy way to smooth over this whole issue. Her parents would have to purchase her outfit, etc.
However, before you do that you need to have an understanding between your fiance and her that she needs to act like a young lady and there will be no more brattiness. Bridesmaids need to act mature because it's an important job, etc. This is the kind of thing your fiance can say (not that it's all true, but it will help put her on the straight and narrow). It's a good way to put a carrot in front of her. She may still be jealous of you, but as a child that's pretty normal. If you act like her friend or older sister, that will help a lot.
As a junior bridesmaid she should not be involved in any of the showers or parties leading up to the wedding.
Reply:You are being so mean to a 12 year old. You were probably that bratty too. Just keep in mind that marriage is supposed to be forever. If its that important to her, just make her a jr bridesmaid. In 20 years, when she's mature and you guys are BFF (family forever) you guys will literally laugh about this time! Trust me, she'll grow up. You both will. You don't want to regret not having her in the wedding.
She is too old to be a flower girl.
Reply:You don't owe her anything especially if she is as horrid as you say. Talk to your fiance' about her behavior (the kicking and pulling hair) that has to be put to a stop ASAP. If your fiance wants to have her in the wedding then he should have her stand for him, she can wear a pretty black and white dress (reminiscent of a tux) and wear a buttonear like the guys.
Reply:Well, at 12 she is the right age for a junior bridesmaid. If his parents are upset that she isn't part of your wedding party, than you might want to keep the peace and go with that option. Then you, your finance, and his parents might want to have a discussion with her about appropriate behavior for a wedding/receptions. However, this is YOUR wedding and only you and your finance can make this decision together.
Are you as a couple paying for it or are you going with "tradition" and having your parents foot the bill? Because if its your money you can just say that for financial reasons you couldn't afford to have a huge bridal party, but you'd like her to help out in some other way, which would be understandable. Not that a 12 year old will get that.
If you decide she's not in the wedding party and she asks why, it might be time for her brother to explain to her that her immature behavior has negative consequences and this is one of them. She's HIS sister and he should be sticking up for you and putting her in her place. Don't forget she's the only girl in a family of boys and she's probably used to being the "princess" in their lives and always getting her way.
You could also try to find other ways for her to be involved in the ceremony and reception. Perhaps she could read a passage for the ceremony? By starting her out with small responsibilities she'll start to learn how to conduct herself in a more appropriate manner; though her parents should be seeing to that not you.
Whatever you decide, its your special day. Try to keep the peace with his family because they are now permanently your family too. But don't do something you feel guilt tripped into by a little brat.
He has 2 brothers that are going to be his groomsmen.
I dont want her in my bridal party. I have issues with her. I think she's spoiled and has given me nothing but grief since I've been dating my fiance. (I've asked for advice on how to deal with her on here before too)
She cries when she doesn't get her way. And even though me and her brother have been together for a a year and a half she still gets jealous of our relationship even though he spends alot of time with her on their own. Usually if she sees us together she'll actually come up and kick me and try to pull him away from me.
I dont want to reward her behavior by having her in my wedding, and i also don't want her throwing fits at my ceremony and reception, but she'd be the only family left out and i feel a bad bc ..what should I do with her?
Junior Bridesmaid..help!?
She asked to be in your wedding party? How rude!!
You and your fiancee need to sit down and talk with her (perhaps his mother can help?). Explain to her how her behavior is the reason why you do not want her to participate. She is abusive toward you (kicking) and possessive of her brother. Tell her flat out you do not believe she can act like a lady should, so you do not want her to embarrass herself. Make sure you focus on her behavior, not on your opinion of her (even though she does sound spoiled).
She needs to understand being in a wedding party is not just a game, it's a responsibility. The wedding party is made up of people who will support the bride and groom through the wedding and beyond. Her behavior has shown you that she is not up to that responsibility.
I understand you do not want to cut her completely out because she is family. Perhaps there is some small thing she is capable of handling? Passing out programs or whatever so she is not totally excluded?
Good luck.
Reply:Tell her if she starts behaving then you will think about it, tell her the way she treats you why should you have her in it. Just tell her when she starts treating you better then you will start to think of her more often. She is old enough to understand.
Reply:Well, from your main question (Junior Bridesmaid...help?!) I'm assuming that you are considering having her as a jr bridesmaid- is that correct?
I think that would be a good position for her if you choose. You can have a serious talk with her about how this is a big responsibility etc. Then maybe she will want to act more grown up like the other bridesmaids.
If you don't want her as a jr BM, how about a candle lighter? Or guestbook attendant?
Reply:You have issues with a 12 year old? Well that kind of says something right there. Another thing that struck me reading this is, doesnt her jealous behaviour seem odd? Are there some strange family dynamics going on that you didnt mention? A 12 year old that kicks and throws fits- Ive never heard of such a thing.
Reply:Stick to your guns.....tell hubby to be to deal with his sister. It's not your problem, it's his. Don't feel bad....she hasn't felt bad about the problems she has caused for you so far, and you know there will be more to come.
Reply:Talk to her and explain why you do not want to have her in the wedding. Maybe you should have this conversation in front of her parents with your boyfriend present as well. Remember, this is your wedding day. As long as you and your b/f agree not to have her in the wedding, it is your choice! Good Luck!
Reply:Well, she's 12 years old! She's old enough to understand that her behavior has consequences. Explain to her and her parents that you don't believe she can behave like a mature person, and therefore will not be in the wedding party.
Reply:You can have her as your guest book attendant. Have her wear colors of your wedding, and have a guest book table. Ask her to stand at the table greeting people and asking them to sign the book. You should also have her walked down the isle behind the mother of the groom to make her feel special. Basically you need to be the more mature one.
Reply:she is 12! she is immature and that is why she acts like that. but you sound immature in the way that you are talking about her. you actually sound quite jealous. i think you should have her be a junior bridesmaid. what is the big deal about it? if she wants to help and have a part in the wedding maybe you two will start getting along better too.
Reply:I completely agree with you about not putting the brat in the wedding. She really is too old to be a flower girl, and if you don't want her to be a Jr. Bridesmaid, then don't let her. If she and your fiance are so close, ask him to talk to her. Get him to tell her why she can't be a flower girl, and that there are already enough bridesmaids. Then pull the "big brother" card and get him to say something like "this is a very special day for me, and I don't want you to give me a reason for me to be disappointed with you. You need to be on your best behavior, which means no throwing tantrums and making a scene. You are 12 not 2 and you know better than that". If he puts the guilt on her, it might work better than you or her parents doing it.
If you really feel like she should do something, you can let her be an usher or hand out wedding programs. That way she is helping and technically part of the wedding, but it's not a big role.
Reply:Your wedding party is supposed to be made up of people you are close to.
If I were in your situation, I would not put her in the wedding. You are right, behavior like that should not be rewarded. Even though she is still young at twelve, she should know that she shouldn't act that way.
Reply:you should tell her the truth, that you don't want her in your wedding because of the way she acts. If your wedding is a little bit off see if she changes her behavior after you talk to her and then ask her to be in the wedding (but only if things change).
Reply:You need to have your fiance talk to her about her behavior. Kicking you and acting like a brat isn't acceptable for someone's who's 4, never mind 11 years old.
If you made her a junior bridesmaid her only involvement would be to march down the aisle holding flowers and then go sit with her parents. Later she gets a few pictures snapped of her with the wedding party. All things considered, it would be an easy way to smooth over this whole issue. Her parents would have to purchase her outfit, etc.
However, before you do that you need to have an understanding between your fiance and her that she needs to act like a young lady and there will be no more brattiness. Bridesmaids need to act mature because it's an important job, etc. This is the kind of thing your fiance can say (not that it's all true, but it will help put her on the straight and narrow). It's a good way to put a carrot in front of her. She may still be jealous of you, but as a child that's pretty normal. If you act like her friend or older sister, that will help a lot.
As a junior bridesmaid she should not be involved in any of the showers or parties leading up to the wedding.
Reply:You are being so mean to a 12 year old. You were probably that bratty too. Just keep in mind that marriage is supposed to be forever. If its that important to her, just make her a jr bridesmaid. In 20 years, when she's mature and you guys are BFF (family forever) you guys will literally laugh about this time! Trust me, she'll grow up. You both will. You don't want to regret not having her in the wedding.
She is too old to be a flower girl.
Reply:You don't owe her anything especially if she is as horrid as you say. Talk to your fiance' about her behavior (the kicking and pulling hair) that has to be put to a stop ASAP. If your fiance wants to have her in the wedding then he should have her stand for him, she can wear a pretty black and white dress (reminiscent of a tux) and wear a buttonear like the guys.
Reply:Well, at 12 she is the right age for a junior bridesmaid. If his parents are upset that she isn't part of your wedding party, than you might want to keep the peace and go with that option. Then you, your finance, and his parents might want to have a discussion with her about appropriate behavior for a wedding/receptions. However, this is YOUR wedding and only you and your finance can make this decision together.
Are you as a couple paying for it or are you going with "tradition" and having your parents foot the bill? Because if its your money you can just say that for financial reasons you couldn't afford to have a huge bridal party, but you'd like her to help out in some other way, which would be understandable. Not that a 12 year old will get that.
If you decide she's not in the wedding party and she asks why, it might be time for her brother to explain to her that her immature behavior has negative consequences and this is one of them. She's HIS sister and he should be sticking up for you and putting her in her place. Don't forget she's the only girl in a family of boys and she's probably used to being the "princess" in their lives and always getting her way.
You could also try to find other ways for her to be involved in the ceremony and reception. Perhaps she could read a passage for the ceremony? By starting her out with small responsibilities she'll start to learn how to conduct herself in a more appropriate manner; though her parents should be seeing to that not you.
Whatever you decide, its your special day. Try to keep the peace with his family because they are now permanently your family too. But don't do something you feel guilt tripped into by a little brat.
Father of the Bride suit or tux?
My fiance and I are getting married in late June. I have a traditional white dress with train, the flower girl has a coordinating dress, my maid of honor will also have a traditional dress. My fiance and his best man will be in full black tuxes. The wedding will be pretty simple, with less than 100 people attending and snacks and finger sandwiches at the reception instead of a formal sit down meal.
My surrogate Dad is giving me away. My question is this, since my fiance's Dad will most likely wear a suit, should I have my Dad wear a suit too? I don't want the photos to look off balance if we take group shots by having all the men in tuxes except the groom's Dad. Would it be considered "tacky" to have the FoB in a nice suit?
Thanks!
Father of the Bride suit or tux?
personally, i'd have him wear a tux unless you're planning on both father figures wearing coordinating suits!
Reply:I had a simliar wedding. My dad wore a suit, just because he hated tux pants. I think it's perfectly fine attire.
Reply:If the groom's dad is going to wear a nice suit, I don't see why not. It'll look balanced if both dads are wearing it. The mom's are wearing just nice dresses. It'll look beautiful either way.
Reply:The wedding party can wear tuxes which would include the FOB. If he prefers wearing a suit then that should be okay as well. Don't sweat the small things.
Reply:Of course, the fathers just wear suits.
Reply:Your surrogate father is giving you away on one of the most Happiest days of your life, he should be dressed in a tux, this is your special day, go for the best! Be sure to let your fiance know your Dad will be wearing a tux, maybe his Dad will change his mind and also wear a tux as he should. Congradulations and Best Wishes on your wedding and marriage.
Reply:No
Reply:in my wedding, both fathers wore tuxes. we had pictures of my husband with his dad and it looked better that he had a tux on too.
Reply:Because you are having an informal wedding, I would let both fathers decide on what they would like to wear. I think in a casual setting, that it does not matter as much, so if you would like your father to wear a tux, that is fine.
Reply:I think a suit is fine. I am having the fathers wear a tux though, but I didnt even think to have them just in a suit, I bet that saves alot of money..
Reply:I think your dad should wear a tux. He is part of the wedding.
Reply:The formality of your father's attire does not have to much the groom's father since he is going to be escorting you down the aisle. He can wear a tuxedo or suit. Your father-in-law will not look out of place in your pictures just because he isn't wearing a tuxedo. The decision really should be based on what you would like your father to wear and what he would feel comfortable in wearing. If you think a suit would be better that would be fine. But he can also wear a tuxedo if you would like him to. And who knows your fiance's dad may opt to wear a tuxedo (my father did for my brother's wedding). If it's really important to you that they dress similarly (which is a very nice gesture), just have your fiance ask his dad whether he plans on wearing a suit or tuxedo so you can plan your father's attire accordingly.
Reply:Well if your fiance's Dad is wearing a suit, then your Dad should too, but I would have your fiance talk to his Dad about wearing a black tux..it is so much more classy looking. If he changes his mind, then your Dad should wear a tux
Reply:Technically, FoG and FoB should be dressed in the same manner as the men in the wedding party. If FoG insists on suit and not tux, then ask FoB to wear a suit too.
Reply:naw
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My surrogate Dad is giving me away. My question is this, since my fiance's Dad will most likely wear a suit, should I have my Dad wear a suit too? I don't want the photos to look off balance if we take group shots by having all the men in tuxes except the groom's Dad. Would it be considered "tacky" to have the FoB in a nice suit?
Thanks!
Father of the Bride suit or tux?
personally, i'd have him wear a tux unless you're planning on both father figures wearing coordinating suits!
Reply:I had a simliar wedding. My dad wore a suit, just because he hated tux pants. I think it's perfectly fine attire.
Reply:If the groom's dad is going to wear a nice suit, I don't see why not. It'll look balanced if both dads are wearing it. The mom's are wearing just nice dresses. It'll look beautiful either way.
Reply:The wedding party can wear tuxes which would include the FOB. If he prefers wearing a suit then that should be okay as well. Don't sweat the small things.
Reply:Of course, the fathers just wear suits.
Reply:Your surrogate father is giving you away on one of the most Happiest days of your life, he should be dressed in a tux, this is your special day, go for the best! Be sure to let your fiance know your Dad will be wearing a tux, maybe his Dad will change his mind and also wear a tux as he should. Congradulations and Best Wishes on your wedding and marriage.
Reply:No
Reply:in my wedding, both fathers wore tuxes. we had pictures of my husband with his dad and it looked better that he had a tux on too.
Reply:Because you are having an informal wedding, I would let both fathers decide on what they would like to wear. I think in a casual setting, that it does not matter as much, so if you would like your father to wear a tux, that is fine.
Reply:I think a suit is fine. I am having the fathers wear a tux though, but I didnt even think to have them just in a suit, I bet that saves alot of money..
Reply:I think your dad should wear a tux. He is part of the wedding.
Reply:The formality of your father's attire does not have to much the groom's father since he is going to be escorting you down the aisle. He can wear a tuxedo or suit. Your father-in-law will not look out of place in your pictures just because he isn't wearing a tuxedo. The decision really should be based on what you would like your father to wear and what he would feel comfortable in wearing. If you think a suit would be better that would be fine. But he can also wear a tuxedo if you would like him to. And who knows your fiance's dad may opt to wear a tuxedo (my father did for my brother's wedding). If it's really important to you that they dress similarly (which is a very nice gesture), just have your fiance ask his dad whether he plans on wearing a suit or tuxedo so you can plan your father's attire accordingly.
Reply:Well if your fiance's Dad is wearing a suit, then your Dad should too, but I would have your fiance talk to his Dad about wearing a black tux..it is so much more classy looking. If he changes his mind, then your Dad should wear a tux
Reply:Technically, FoG and FoB should be dressed in the same manner as the men in the wedding party. If FoG insists on suit and not tux, then ask FoB to wear a suit too.
Reply:naw
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Is this proper?
My six year daughter is going to be in my neice's wedding. Everyone kind of just volunteered her to be the flower child without first asking me. Not that isn't bad enough,but her wedding is on a day that I have to work,and it's 1 1/2 away,too. I can't take off work as I'm on my first 90 days at this new job. My neice never bothered to even send a invitation to me either. When I asked my sister if I was invited,she said,"we figured you'd just show up." Ok,this makes me feel not welcome to begin with. Is it proper for me just not to go,or to show up at the reception? I love my neice,but we haven't been close in many years,and just don't feel the need/want to attend. My sister didn't attend my wedding and neither did any of her children either. Should I go,or bow out,or what?
Is this proper?
You could bow out if you like and you would not be wrong to do so. It is customary (and minimally polite) to ask a parent if their child can participate in a wedding, not just decide that the child is community property and make that decision on one's own. It is also rude to tell someone you expect them to show up at your wedding, but don't think it's worth the bother to send them an invite.
If you have to work and it is during your probationary period, you could be jeopardizing your job for a wedding you weren't even given a proper invitation to. If your family is such that they didn't go to your wedding, and are treating you as an afterthought with a convenience (child), then there is no real reason for you to go, or for your daughter to participate.
Reply:Forgive your sister and niece. Dress your daughter up nicely. Attend the wedding. Mend bridges. Make up with the family and become "sisters" once again. Family is precious. Don't throw it away.
Reply:Sounds to me like they are maybe trying to offer the olive branch, but they have not thought it through enough to make sure it's acceptable to you. Also, if your family is fairly casual about weddings and similar events, but you are not, they might just be taking your attendance for granted.
There's no reason you should go, especially if to do so might put your job at risk. And if you don't want your daughter to go without you, well their plans will have to be changed.
It's a pity she will miss this chance to share such a lovely day with her cousins, but if they had thought to ask you first, the problem could have been completely avoided.
Best wishes with yiour new job! :-)
Reply:it's not necessary for you to attend. let them know, though. as for your daughter, if you don't want her to be in it, tell them now when they still have time to find a new flower girl. otherwise, see if she can stay with your sister or mother or some other relative for the weekend.
Reply:you answered your own question, you where not formally invited, and no one volunteers a flower girl. it seems like a piece meal wedding to say the least, and i would not feel obligated to attend, turn down right away.
Reply:I wouldn't go. We have a relative like that. And speaking from experience, I would say that you shouldn't have to go, and your daughter shouldn't have to be the flower girl either if you don't want her to. I would just tell them no. I mean it's your life, you shouldn't feel pressure from them to do something you can't, when you have to work. I would just say no, you have to work and that's that.
Reply:They figured you'd just show up? Wow I'm sorry to hear your family is so rude and uncouth. Still, they are your family, so you could try to talk to your sister about why that was hurtful. I wouldn't tell them their behavior is why you're not going though, that would be overly dramatic. Just explain that you can't take off work. If your daughter has her heart set on being the flower child maybe another relative could take her. Otherwise if she doesn't really want to, just say no.
Reply:Do whatever you feel like doing. I don't think you are obligated.
Reply:It's not necessary to go. Tell them right away though about your job and about your discomfort. Give them plenty of time to find a new flower girl. If I were you I wouldn't feel guilty at all. Good luck!
nicole
Reply:You have to do what is best for you. If you are not able to attend because of your job. Do not go! It simply is not feasible for you to attend, you have the perfect excuse. If they do not understand oh well.... You employment is your livelihood that must come first. God bless****
motor scooter
Is this proper?
You could bow out if you like and you would not be wrong to do so. It is customary (and minimally polite) to ask a parent if their child can participate in a wedding, not just decide that the child is community property and make that decision on one's own. It is also rude to tell someone you expect them to show up at your wedding, but don't think it's worth the bother to send them an invite.
If you have to work and it is during your probationary period, you could be jeopardizing your job for a wedding you weren't even given a proper invitation to. If your family is such that they didn't go to your wedding, and are treating you as an afterthought with a convenience (child), then there is no real reason for you to go, or for your daughter to participate.
Reply:Forgive your sister and niece. Dress your daughter up nicely. Attend the wedding. Mend bridges. Make up with the family and become "sisters" once again. Family is precious. Don't throw it away.
Reply:Sounds to me like they are maybe trying to offer the olive branch, but they have not thought it through enough to make sure it's acceptable to you. Also, if your family is fairly casual about weddings and similar events, but you are not, they might just be taking your attendance for granted.
There's no reason you should go, especially if to do so might put your job at risk. And if you don't want your daughter to go without you, well their plans will have to be changed.
It's a pity she will miss this chance to share such a lovely day with her cousins, but if they had thought to ask you first, the problem could have been completely avoided.
Best wishes with yiour new job! :-)
Reply:it's not necessary for you to attend. let them know, though. as for your daughter, if you don't want her to be in it, tell them now when they still have time to find a new flower girl. otherwise, see if she can stay with your sister or mother or some other relative for the weekend.
Reply:you answered your own question, you where not formally invited, and no one volunteers a flower girl. it seems like a piece meal wedding to say the least, and i would not feel obligated to attend, turn down right away.
Reply:I wouldn't go. We have a relative like that. And speaking from experience, I would say that you shouldn't have to go, and your daughter shouldn't have to be the flower girl either if you don't want her to. I would just tell them no. I mean it's your life, you shouldn't feel pressure from them to do something you can't, when you have to work. I would just say no, you have to work and that's that.
Reply:They figured you'd just show up? Wow I'm sorry to hear your family is so rude and uncouth. Still, they are your family, so you could try to talk to your sister about why that was hurtful. I wouldn't tell them their behavior is why you're not going though, that would be overly dramatic. Just explain that you can't take off work. If your daughter has her heart set on being the flower child maybe another relative could take her. Otherwise if she doesn't really want to, just say no.
Reply:Do whatever you feel like doing. I don't think you are obligated.
Reply:It's not necessary to go. Tell them right away though about your job and about your discomfort. Give them plenty of time to find a new flower girl. If I were you I wouldn't feel guilty at all. Good luck!
nicole
Reply:You have to do what is best for you. If you are not able to attend because of your job. Do not go! It simply is not feasible for you to attend, you have the perfect excuse. If they do not understand oh well.... You employment is your livelihood that must come first. God bless****
motor scooter
What do I do next...?
My wedding is June 14, 2008. We have booked the church and reception hall. Asked the bridesmaids and groomsmen. Started buying things such as decorations, ring bearers pillow/flower girls basket, guest book and pen. We have booked our photographer. Filled out the application for our passport (for the honeymoon). Stated collecting ideas for things that we like.
I feel like there is so much that I should be doing, but I have no clue what else to do this early on. Any suggestion?
What do I do next...?
You are way ahead of the game right now. I would wait a few months before finalizing a menu so you don't grow to hate it before the wedding. I would probably look for the dresses now as some can take a while to get back and probably altered but other than that you are doing great.
Reply:Order your invitations, look for a florist and band. Start looking for a wedding dress. Book your premarital counselling.
Reply:Your dress! and dresses for the girls
Reply:Buy yourself some bridal magazines they all have checklists.
Reply:if you plan to make decorations, invitations, or thank you cards yourself, start working on that. if you want to make a slide show, start gathering and scanning pictures. slide shows can take a long time to put together. also, start thinking about your order of events at your wedding reception. there is so much to do there . everything from the order of introductions, cutting the cake, and bouquet toss will run a lot smoother if you have an order of events for your dj and your banquet hall. i have paperwork i made for my boyfriend's dj business that can help you out. if you would like a copy, just email me at rosy0114@hotmail.com
Reply:find a check list from a bridal mag or get a wedding palaner from target.
Reply:Depending on where you live, you may want to start contacting caterers now. Where I live, they get booked WAY in advance, so I needed to get mine booked about a year in advance.
Other than that, you're ahead of the game. Start trying on dresses and having fun!!!
Reply:Wow, you are way ahead. My wedding is June 7, 2008 and I am nowhere near that far yet....you make me feel like such a slacker. Good luck and Congratulations!
Reply:go to a book store buy a wedding planner i found a great one at barnes %26amp; noble for pretty cheap bout $20 and it has EVERYTHING in it tons of check lists and different money saving tips and even sheets to keep your budget on track and folders to keep all the important papers in best $20 i've spent
Reply:sounds like you are doing good. just keep your eyes opened for sales and deals on things you might be able to use. sign up for theknot. they give you updates on when to do things, very helpful.
I feel like there is so much that I should be doing, but I have no clue what else to do this early on. Any suggestion?
What do I do next...?
You are way ahead of the game right now. I would wait a few months before finalizing a menu so you don't grow to hate it before the wedding. I would probably look for the dresses now as some can take a while to get back and probably altered but other than that you are doing great.
Reply:Order your invitations, look for a florist and band. Start looking for a wedding dress. Book your premarital counselling.
Reply:Your dress! and dresses for the girls
Reply:Buy yourself some bridal magazines they all have checklists.
Reply:if you plan to make decorations, invitations, or thank you cards yourself, start working on that. if you want to make a slide show, start gathering and scanning pictures. slide shows can take a long time to put together. also, start thinking about your order of events at your wedding reception. there is so much to do there . everything from the order of introductions, cutting the cake, and bouquet toss will run a lot smoother if you have an order of events for your dj and your banquet hall. i have paperwork i made for my boyfriend's dj business that can help you out. if you would like a copy, just email me at rosy0114@hotmail.com
Reply:find a check list from a bridal mag or get a wedding palaner from target.
Reply:Depending on where you live, you may want to start contacting caterers now. Where I live, they get booked WAY in advance, so I needed to get mine booked about a year in advance.
Other than that, you're ahead of the game. Start trying on dresses and having fun!!!
Reply:Wow, you are way ahead. My wedding is June 7, 2008 and I am nowhere near that far yet....you make me feel like such a slacker. Good luck and Congratulations!
Reply:go to a book store buy a wedding planner i found a great one at barnes %26amp; noble for pretty cheap bout $20 and it has EVERYTHING in it tons of check lists and different money saving tips and even sheets to keep your budget on track and folders to keep all the important papers in best $20 i've spent
Reply:sounds like you are doing good. just keep your eyes opened for sales and deals on things you might be able to use. sign up for theknot. they give you updates on when to do things, very helpful.
Mother in law from hell! My fam paying $5k, were paying 5k, shes paying 20k?
I would be happy with a small wedding, but SHE wants a huge one with all her church friends, thats why shes flipping most of the bill. She has already shot down my dress, flower %26amp;color choices. The big problem is she wants NO alcohol. Our package at the hotel INCLUDES a cocktail hour, a glass of wine at dinner, and a champange toast. Also the beverage minimum is $4k. She forbids any of it! Even the toast! She wants to toast with apple cider, and serve fruit punch and water ONLY, not even soda. We are going to lose about $7k by forfitting the alcohol, the hotel won't change their minimums just because we choose not to have it. She is a big part of her church, and says that we arent "allowed" to have alcohol, but the reception isnt at the church, its at a hotel! Also, my family are drinkers and want to have a good time, they are really upset about this. She doesnt even aknowlege that I have a family, its all about her. I cant speak up cause she is paying for so much! What to do?
Mother in law from hell! My fam paying $5k, were paying 5k, shes paying 20k?
What? This is the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard. If you think her pushiness will end as soon as the wedding is over - think again; if you don't put your foot down, you're in for a lifetime of this. What does your fiancé think about it? If he sides with his mother, you're screwed big time; you will always play the second fiddle, and will not have much of a say in the family affairs. If he would rather have a smaller wedding WITH alcohol, and everything else you two would want to include - then tell him to inform his mother that thanks but no thanks, you are organizing your own wedding the way YOU two see fit. There's absolutely nothing unreasonable in the fact that two grown adults want to have a choice of what to do at THEIR OWN wedding. I'm normally all for tolerance and compromise, but sometimes you just have to say "enough". Her insistance on disregarding your wishes sounds absolutely ridiculous.
Reply:It is about what the two of you want. Marriage is a stepping out for the two of you,showing that you are grown adults and able to make your own decisions. It is your wedding not hers. She can not forbid anything. Tell her that you appreciate her input but the decisions are yours to make. If she wants to pull her money back, let her. If you let her win this war, you are going to have many battles ahead. Speak up! Tell her what you think! It is all about communication.
Reply:You need to tell her to back-up or SHUT-UP!! Tell her that you are GOING to have alcohol and thats that!! I would voice my opinion in a slippery second if I was in your position!! IT'S YOUR WEDDING, NOT HERS! This is not some get together for her and all her little church friends. Don't worry about hurting her feelings....stand up for yourself and tell her how it is going to be!! Now when it comes to your wedding dress NO ONE has the right to tell you how to choose EXCEPT for you!! You only get married once, this is your day not hers...TELL HER TO SHUT-UP AND GET OFF YOUR BACK!! Thats how you do it!!
Reply:YES YOU CAN... and SO should your FUTURE husband!This day is about THE TWO OF YOU!!! NOT THE THREE OF YOU!!! You need to make it perfectly clear that you are going to have alcohol or your going to have a small wedding the way that YOU want to have it, and she doesnt have to come if she doesnt like it!! I know it sounds brutal, but this is YOUR special day... a ONCE IN A LIFETIME (or should be) Day for you two... It should be everything YOU imagined it would be... NOT HER... Who the hell is she??? JUST YOUR MOM IN LAW...NOTHING MORE. Noone died and made her god! Make sure she knows it is complete disrespect towards YOU and YOUR family by not complying with YOUR wishes. Good luck
Reply:wow you are in a hard situation. Just talk to her and go ahead have alcohol is your wedding not hers.
Reply:It isn't her wedding, it is yours! What does your fiance say about all of this?? Although having the extra 20k would be GREAT, you should talk to her. Let her know that it is your day and you are going to have it the way you want it to be...tell her that you don't want her money. Instead, ask your parents to co-sign on a personal loan with you and borrow money from the bank. If it only takes 20k total, then take out 10k from the bank to make up for it. You can speak up, regardless of how much she is paying...it is YOUR day!!!
Reply:Sounds like she forgot who's getting married. It's YOUR wedding. She probably thinks that because she's paying most of the money, she can dictate the plans. You need to put her in her place. If you feel uncomfortable doing it, ask your fiance to help. Good luck!
Reply:put your foot down and demand the wedding you want. I believe weddings are about families but this isn't even about that- it's about one woman who isn't even you!
Reply:You and your fiance had better talk to her soon. However, you should have solved this much earlier by you two paying for your own wedding!
Reply:Sounds to me this is her wedding and not yours. You and your future hubby must sit down and have a chat with her and tell her you feelings about all this. Its your day and not hers. Congratulations and i hope that you do get your special day xx
Reply:Tell her to but out. You are the bride it is your big day not hers. If you don't put a squash to her butting in now you will be miserable for as long as you are married to her son. Know from experience been there done that. She has no right to forbid anything if she doesn't want what you want. Have a smaller wedding that you can afford to throw yourself or with your parents help.If you let her ruin this for you you will take it out on her son when you start getting bitter and angry because you didn't get to have your wedding you had hers. If your soon to be can't back you up then maybe you shouldn't get married to him after all. He will continue to take her side once you get married if you let him do it now.I am not trying to upset you I have been were you are and I am just trying to give you some advice. My Mother in law actually ordered my Husband to break up with me since I wouldn't agree to have the wedding were she wanted. She got mad because I let my mom make my dress instead of buying one with a designer label. She wanted my wedding to be a certain way not because she wanted her son's wedding to be special but so she could rub it in other peoples faces.Her interference almost cost us our happyness don't let your Mom in law ruin yours.Good Luck!
Reply:Easy for me to see whats going on. Shes buying you a wedding and is calling the shots. Call it off and then start again on your own with what you can afford. If its too late to do that, then be a bride from hell and demand you get what you want! You MIL will have to abide cause shes gonna loose alot of money if you threaten to not show up on your wedding day. Its your day. Not hers.
Whats your hubby have to say about this?
Reply:I can't stand SNOBS! This is your day that you will want to remember for the rest of your life! The decision should be yours! If she is not willing to change her mind, then change it for her and cancel the place your at and get one you can afford with drinking allowed. Piss on her! And let her know that you will be paying for whatever you can afford so at least it will be your decision for your day. I wish you lots of luck!
Reply:It's your wedding follow what you want and your soon to be husband should stand by you! Don't take her stuff now otherwise it will never end! Keep your head up and don't allow her to be the bride! you are!!!!!!! ~ katie
Reply:You ,with your fiance, need to sit down and talk as adults to see if yu can come to some sort of compromise. Now, today. Don't wait as it will continue to escalate.
This is a common problem, so don't dispair. You just need to find the solution that works for you.
Realize, too that she has envisioned how her son's wedding would be and that emotions run on extra high from everyone.
Good luck
Ps. Maybe mom-inlaw should hold her reception at a later date?
Reply:Its your day not hers, and if you dont let her know now, just wait and see how she will be when you have kids!
Reply:I think you and your soon to be husband should both go talk to her together. Explain to her how much it means to you both that she is being so generous with helping pay for the wedding, but that it is indeed YOUR wedding and you want to accommodate all of your guests. Be honest about your stand on alcohol and ask her to respect your wishes of being able to serve it at your reception not to mention your choice of dress, colors, and flowers. This day is about you and your husband, not her. She worst she can do is choose not to contribute to the wedding.
Reply:It sounds like typical mother of the groom stuff. No one is good enough for her baby boy. My eyes can't roll far enough back into my head to express how ridiculous this is!! Seriously, your kid is a GROWN UP!!! Sheesh.
I think if you politely but firmly tell her this is YOUR wedding, not hers and (as long as you were up front about the alcohol thing before she agreed to help financially) that you appreciate her helping you guys out with the bill, but you still want alcohol to be served and that no one will be expected to participate in the drinking if they choose not to. If she's still adamant about not having it tell her the last time you checked, God teaches us not to judge others, and that He is the judge of all. Besides, according to my studies... which aren't incredibly extensive or anything, drunkenness is a sin, moderate drinking is not. Jesus even drank alcohol in the form of wine, and we're supposed to be trying to be like him right?
OR you could always just agree that there won't be any alcohol there, but just tell her that, no one else. When they start serving alcohol and she flips out (and if she's anything like the people causing this same problem at my wedding were she will) just tell her you don't know what happened but you're sure they got the no alcohol message and then proceed to have fun at your reception! She'll most likely make a complete a$$ of herself in front of everyone so you can go cheap on the entertainment if you want!
It will probably help to have your fiance's support on whatever you do, though, and have them with you when you confront her about this issue.
Reply:Call it off!
It will only get worse!
You would be agreeing to becoming a SLAVE for life...
Reply:Cancel her wedding. Either elope or plan a small wedding that you can afford and do it your way. You are getting married and it should be the way you want it. Or else be prepared for her to run the rest of your life, too.
Reply:It's not her wedding, it's yours! Regardless of her kind gesture to pay a significant amount for your special occasion. Let her change her mind on paying so much if it's such a big thing for her. Remind her that it's your wedding to plan, and you appreciate her help, however some decisions are better made between you and your significant other. Good luck!
Reply:Ok. Understand that she is going to try to run your life from now on. It IS NOT TOO LATE TO NOT MARRY HER SON. If you really really really want to marry him, then elope. Seriously. You don't need a $30,000 wedding.If she says no drinking and your family drinks you will constantly have to keep everyone separate. You are talking about the rest of your life, not just your wedding. However, why will you "lose $7K" by foreiting the alcohol? That sounds like a scam.
Reply:Make a stand now or she will run your life forever. If she will not accept your terms for your wedding, then she can bail out. If your hesband does not support you, then cancel the whole thing. Plain and simple.
Reply:Why can't you speak up? If she doesn't like the dress, flower, color choices, and the alcohol, then she can keep her 20k. You said you'd be happy with a small wedding, anyway. Basically, she's over a barrel. If she wants this huge wedding to impress all her church friends, she has to go along with you and what you want. If she doesn't, she doesn't get her big wedding. So, really, YOU are in charge. She can't have the big wedding without you. So, either you have your small wedding and do what you want or she gets her big wedding because you get to do what you want. It's not a bad situation to be in. She's not holding YOU hostage; YOU are holding HER hostage.
Reply:Similar thing happend to me. The best thing you can do is decline her money and do it yourself. You can have a wonderful wedding with $10K!! Do not let her spoil your day..it;s the only first wedding you will ever have.
Reply:This is why you should never take money from anyone.
Tell her that you want alcoholic... if people don't want to drink or don't believe in it- that's their personal right and no one is making them drink. If she throws a fit about the money- give it back to her and pay for it yourself and cut her friends off the guest list.
Just stick to your guns!
Reply:There is only one thing you can do. Decline any financial assistance from her over 5k, and make sure everyone has equal say in the wedding plans.
Cut your budget by moving your reception elsewhere and your ceremony to a park.
Reply:Your fiance needs to sit down and explain the situation to his mom.
Even though you both GREATLY appreciate that she wants to put money towards the wedding, that doesn't make it HER wedding. You are the ones getting married, and you are putting $5K towards it. She should not have sole decision over your dress, colors, location, or choice of food and drink.
Talk to the hotel and see if they will give the non-drinking guests sparkling cider. That way your crowd could partake without offending the other side.
Reply:Tell her you don't need her money.
Reply:Cancel the whole thing. Elope, then have an intimate party with your close friends and family when you return. It's YOUR wedding, but if this person is hellbent on running the show, take matters into your own hands. How important is the three-ring circus to YOU? Isn't the most important thing the fact that you and your beloved are committing to a lifelong relationship. Oh yeah, I forgot--she's going to be part of that! Shoot. Good luck!
Reply:What does your future husband have to say about all this? Is there anybody that is willing to stand up to this controlling, castrating, overbearing, egotistical, self-serving woman?
Why don't you either come to an agreement with this terror or tell her to stick the money where her god won't see it and flip the bill yourself and have the kind of wedding you want, after all it is you who is getting married not her!
Mother in law from hell! My fam paying $5k, were paying 5k, shes paying 20k?
What? This is the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard. If you think her pushiness will end as soon as the wedding is over - think again; if you don't put your foot down, you're in for a lifetime of this. What does your fiancé think about it? If he sides with his mother, you're screwed big time; you will always play the second fiddle, and will not have much of a say in the family affairs. If he would rather have a smaller wedding WITH alcohol, and everything else you two would want to include - then tell him to inform his mother that thanks but no thanks, you are organizing your own wedding the way YOU two see fit. There's absolutely nothing unreasonable in the fact that two grown adults want to have a choice of what to do at THEIR OWN wedding. I'm normally all for tolerance and compromise, but sometimes you just have to say "enough". Her insistance on disregarding your wishes sounds absolutely ridiculous.
Reply:It is about what the two of you want. Marriage is a stepping out for the two of you,showing that you are grown adults and able to make your own decisions. It is your wedding not hers. She can not forbid anything. Tell her that you appreciate her input but the decisions are yours to make. If she wants to pull her money back, let her. If you let her win this war, you are going to have many battles ahead. Speak up! Tell her what you think! It is all about communication.
Reply:You need to tell her to back-up or SHUT-UP!! Tell her that you are GOING to have alcohol and thats that!! I would voice my opinion in a slippery second if I was in your position!! IT'S YOUR WEDDING, NOT HERS! This is not some get together for her and all her little church friends. Don't worry about hurting her feelings....stand up for yourself and tell her how it is going to be!! Now when it comes to your wedding dress NO ONE has the right to tell you how to choose EXCEPT for you!! You only get married once, this is your day not hers...TELL HER TO SHUT-UP AND GET OFF YOUR BACK!! Thats how you do it!!
Reply:YES YOU CAN... and SO should your FUTURE husband!This day is about THE TWO OF YOU!!! NOT THE THREE OF YOU!!! You need to make it perfectly clear that you are going to have alcohol or your going to have a small wedding the way that YOU want to have it, and she doesnt have to come if she doesnt like it!! I know it sounds brutal, but this is YOUR special day... a ONCE IN A LIFETIME (or should be) Day for you two... It should be everything YOU imagined it would be... NOT HER... Who the hell is she??? JUST YOUR MOM IN LAW...NOTHING MORE. Noone died and made her god! Make sure she knows it is complete disrespect towards YOU and YOUR family by not complying with YOUR wishes. Good luck
Reply:wow you are in a hard situation. Just talk to her and go ahead have alcohol is your wedding not hers.
Reply:It isn't her wedding, it is yours! What does your fiance say about all of this?? Although having the extra 20k would be GREAT, you should talk to her. Let her know that it is your day and you are going to have it the way you want it to be...tell her that you don't want her money. Instead, ask your parents to co-sign on a personal loan with you and borrow money from the bank. If it only takes 20k total, then take out 10k from the bank to make up for it. You can speak up, regardless of how much she is paying...it is YOUR day!!!
Reply:Sounds like she forgot who's getting married. It's YOUR wedding. She probably thinks that because she's paying most of the money, she can dictate the plans. You need to put her in her place. If you feel uncomfortable doing it, ask your fiance to help. Good luck!
Reply:put your foot down and demand the wedding you want. I believe weddings are about families but this isn't even about that- it's about one woman who isn't even you!
Reply:You and your fiance had better talk to her soon. However, you should have solved this much earlier by you two paying for your own wedding!
Reply:Sounds to me this is her wedding and not yours. You and your future hubby must sit down and have a chat with her and tell her you feelings about all this. Its your day and not hers. Congratulations and i hope that you do get your special day xx
Reply:Tell her to but out. You are the bride it is your big day not hers. If you don't put a squash to her butting in now you will be miserable for as long as you are married to her son. Know from experience been there done that. She has no right to forbid anything if she doesn't want what you want. Have a smaller wedding that you can afford to throw yourself or with your parents help.If you let her ruin this for you you will take it out on her son when you start getting bitter and angry because you didn't get to have your wedding you had hers. If your soon to be can't back you up then maybe you shouldn't get married to him after all. He will continue to take her side once you get married if you let him do it now.I am not trying to upset you I have been were you are and I am just trying to give you some advice. My Mother in law actually ordered my Husband to break up with me since I wouldn't agree to have the wedding were she wanted. She got mad because I let my mom make my dress instead of buying one with a designer label. She wanted my wedding to be a certain way not because she wanted her son's wedding to be special but so she could rub it in other peoples faces.Her interference almost cost us our happyness don't let your Mom in law ruin yours.Good Luck!
Reply:Easy for me to see whats going on. Shes buying you a wedding and is calling the shots. Call it off and then start again on your own with what you can afford. If its too late to do that, then be a bride from hell and demand you get what you want! You MIL will have to abide cause shes gonna loose alot of money if you threaten to not show up on your wedding day. Its your day. Not hers.
Whats your hubby have to say about this?
Reply:I can't stand SNOBS! This is your day that you will want to remember for the rest of your life! The decision should be yours! If she is not willing to change her mind, then change it for her and cancel the place your at and get one you can afford with drinking allowed. Piss on her! And let her know that you will be paying for whatever you can afford so at least it will be your decision for your day. I wish you lots of luck!
Reply:It's your wedding follow what you want and your soon to be husband should stand by you! Don't take her stuff now otherwise it will never end! Keep your head up and don't allow her to be the bride! you are!!!!!!! ~ katie
Reply:You ,with your fiance, need to sit down and talk as adults to see if yu can come to some sort of compromise. Now, today. Don't wait as it will continue to escalate.
This is a common problem, so don't dispair. You just need to find the solution that works for you.
Realize, too that she has envisioned how her son's wedding would be and that emotions run on extra high from everyone.
Good luck
Ps. Maybe mom-inlaw should hold her reception at a later date?
Reply:Its your day not hers, and if you dont let her know now, just wait and see how she will be when you have kids!
Reply:I think you and your soon to be husband should both go talk to her together. Explain to her how much it means to you both that she is being so generous with helping pay for the wedding, but that it is indeed YOUR wedding and you want to accommodate all of your guests. Be honest about your stand on alcohol and ask her to respect your wishes of being able to serve it at your reception not to mention your choice of dress, colors, and flowers. This day is about you and your husband, not her. She worst she can do is choose not to contribute to the wedding.
Reply:It sounds like typical mother of the groom stuff. No one is good enough for her baby boy. My eyes can't roll far enough back into my head to express how ridiculous this is!! Seriously, your kid is a GROWN UP!!! Sheesh.
I think if you politely but firmly tell her this is YOUR wedding, not hers and (as long as you were up front about the alcohol thing before she agreed to help financially) that you appreciate her helping you guys out with the bill, but you still want alcohol to be served and that no one will be expected to participate in the drinking if they choose not to. If she's still adamant about not having it tell her the last time you checked, God teaches us not to judge others, and that He is the judge of all. Besides, according to my studies... which aren't incredibly extensive or anything, drunkenness is a sin, moderate drinking is not. Jesus even drank alcohol in the form of wine, and we're supposed to be trying to be like him right?
OR you could always just agree that there won't be any alcohol there, but just tell her that, no one else. When they start serving alcohol and she flips out (and if she's anything like the people causing this same problem at my wedding were she will) just tell her you don't know what happened but you're sure they got the no alcohol message and then proceed to have fun at your reception! She'll most likely make a complete a$$ of herself in front of everyone so you can go cheap on the entertainment if you want!
It will probably help to have your fiance's support on whatever you do, though, and have them with you when you confront her about this issue.
Reply:Call it off!
It will only get worse!
You would be agreeing to becoming a SLAVE for life...
Reply:Cancel her wedding. Either elope or plan a small wedding that you can afford and do it your way. You are getting married and it should be the way you want it. Or else be prepared for her to run the rest of your life, too.
Reply:It's not her wedding, it's yours! Regardless of her kind gesture to pay a significant amount for your special occasion. Let her change her mind on paying so much if it's such a big thing for her. Remind her that it's your wedding to plan, and you appreciate her help, however some decisions are better made between you and your significant other. Good luck!
Reply:Ok. Understand that she is going to try to run your life from now on. It IS NOT TOO LATE TO NOT MARRY HER SON. If you really really really want to marry him, then elope. Seriously. You don't need a $30,000 wedding.If she says no drinking and your family drinks you will constantly have to keep everyone separate. You are talking about the rest of your life, not just your wedding. However, why will you "lose $7K" by foreiting the alcohol? That sounds like a scam.
Reply:Make a stand now or she will run your life forever. If she will not accept your terms for your wedding, then she can bail out. If your hesband does not support you, then cancel the whole thing. Plain and simple.
Reply:Why can't you speak up? If she doesn't like the dress, flower, color choices, and the alcohol, then she can keep her 20k. You said you'd be happy with a small wedding, anyway. Basically, she's over a barrel. If she wants this huge wedding to impress all her church friends, she has to go along with you and what you want. If she doesn't, she doesn't get her big wedding. So, really, YOU are in charge. She can't have the big wedding without you. So, either you have your small wedding and do what you want or she gets her big wedding because you get to do what you want. It's not a bad situation to be in. She's not holding YOU hostage; YOU are holding HER hostage.
Reply:Similar thing happend to me. The best thing you can do is decline her money and do it yourself. You can have a wonderful wedding with $10K!! Do not let her spoil your day..it;s the only first wedding you will ever have.
Reply:This is why you should never take money from anyone.
Tell her that you want alcoholic... if people don't want to drink or don't believe in it- that's their personal right and no one is making them drink. If she throws a fit about the money- give it back to her and pay for it yourself and cut her friends off the guest list.
Just stick to your guns!
Reply:There is only one thing you can do. Decline any financial assistance from her over 5k, and make sure everyone has equal say in the wedding plans.
Cut your budget by moving your reception elsewhere and your ceremony to a park.
Reply:Your fiance needs to sit down and explain the situation to his mom.
Even though you both GREATLY appreciate that she wants to put money towards the wedding, that doesn't make it HER wedding. You are the ones getting married, and you are putting $5K towards it. She should not have sole decision over your dress, colors, location, or choice of food and drink.
Talk to the hotel and see if they will give the non-drinking guests sparkling cider. That way your crowd could partake without offending the other side.
Reply:Tell her you don't need her money.
Reply:Cancel the whole thing. Elope, then have an intimate party with your close friends and family when you return. It's YOUR wedding, but if this person is hellbent on running the show, take matters into your own hands. How important is the three-ring circus to YOU? Isn't the most important thing the fact that you and your beloved are committing to a lifelong relationship. Oh yeah, I forgot--she's going to be part of that! Shoot. Good luck!
Reply:What does your future husband have to say about all this? Is there anybody that is willing to stand up to this controlling, castrating, overbearing, egotistical, self-serving woman?
Why don't you either come to an agreement with this terror or tell her to stick the money where her god won't see it and flip the bill yourself and have the kind of wedding you want, after all it is you who is getting married not her!
My friend is getting married. She is has little $. I need ideas for decorating cheap? colors are pnk/brwn.?
My best friend is getting married and they have very little money to plan and have the wedding. I need help coming up with great ideas for the wedding on a budget of $500. She already has her dress and all the bridesmaids are buying their own dresses. Guys are buying their own shirts. Help with flower ideas and decorating for the service and reception. Her colors are pink and chocolate brown. Any ideas for any part of the wedding would be greatly appreciated.. Thanks.
My friend is getting married. She is has little $. I need ideas for decorating cheap? colors are pnk/brwn.?
What about framed pictures of her and her hubby as centerpeices or decorations? Use a different picture for each table. You could scatter rose petals around it. Keep flowers to a minimum and consider buying them on line and arranging them yourselves.
Also, you don't give much detail on the size of the reception, but think about using an iPod play list instead of a DJ.
Reply:Artificial flowers all the way. This is what we are doing. You can get them for around .30cents each. Then use each bouquet as a centerpiece on every other table at the reception. Tulle is also VERY cheap. If you are having the ceremony and the reception at the ame place, focus on decorating the reception as that is where most of the time will be spent. Good luck!
Reply:To keep prices down and still get nice things here are a few ideas.
craigslist
ebay
goodwill ( the clear bowls that you see with floating candles are .99each - also sometimes you find new tings that people donate for whatever reason)
dollar store
walmart also check out there clearance aisle.
Good Luck
Reply:if the total weeding budget is $500 then the only way you cloud afford flowers is by steeling them from neighbour yard. Why don't you get balloons and not flowers? You could also cut off big branches from a tee spray paint it, put it in to a nice bucket, and hang off of it pictures, butterfly, flowers, beads, leaves..................
You could Gert all the girls and bake cakes and use them as centrepiece, or make candy apples and use them as deco
this is the idea
http://www.etherealdecor.com/crystal_wed...
http://www.manzanitacreations.com/
search manzanita trees if you like the idea. They could be used as centrepiece or if its relay big it could be used as alter
Reply:Start at your local dollar store such as Dollar Tree. They have tons of decorations - even for weddings - and it's definitely worth a trip to see what they have in store today. Look at sales at your local Garden Ridge, Michael's, Hobby Lobby, etc. and see what's on clearance. Consider asking a few friends or even family members for a small contribution ($50 to $100 per person) to help with the wedding costs. That would help you increase your budget.
Good luck!
Reply:Here's a wedding checklist that may help you out. And if it doesn't, at least it's funny!
http://www.bofads.com/stories/checklist....
Reply:Here are a couple of sites that may help.
http://www.thebridesbouquet.com/
http://www.save-on-crafts.com/gifandpac....
Reply:to start with go to any of the diy sites for bridal... plan what you want there. then go check out your local dollar store for the materials. most dollar stores where I am at has alot of wedding decorations I got 99% of mine there.. and yes looks nice.
Reply:for my wedding we used silk flowers from the dollar store , and we had our reception as a picnic outside , was real cheap, but looked great and everyone loved the out door reception , beer and wine was actually biggest exspence, good luck
Reply:My wedding was pink and brown and it was beautiful! I suggest going to hobby lobby (if you have that store) getting fake flowers. That's what I did. I got the pink calla lillies, they looked real. They are really cheap. I got alot of pink and brown ribbon. I outlined the top of my brides table with both of them. I got a thick brown ribbon and a thin pink one and put the pink one on top of the brown. I could go on and on. I had a tight budget as well, but it looked like I spent gobs of money.
Reply:Get disposable camera's for the table, that way they will have loads of pictures and cheap too... since they can drop them off to have them developed.
You can go to a fabric shop and get pink tulle and use brown table cloths, you can find different styles of vases both large and small, paint them and place fake flowers in them to decorate. Then, head to nature. We spray painted pine cones and such for our wedding as decorations and it looked fabulous!
For the service, you can decorate with fabric or ribbon, and can usually find it all pretty inexpensive to boot.
We did white tulle down the sides of the pews in our church, and used 3 silk flowers in my colors and hot glued it to the tulle at each pew. We only did the first few pews that would be seating for immediate family members.
I hope this helps!
My friend is getting married. She is has little $. I need ideas for decorating cheap? colors are pnk/brwn.?
What about framed pictures of her and her hubby as centerpeices or decorations? Use a different picture for each table. You could scatter rose petals around it. Keep flowers to a minimum and consider buying them on line and arranging them yourselves.
Also, you don't give much detail on the size of the reception, but think about using an iPod play list instead of a DJ.
Reply:Artificial flowers all the way. This is what we are doing. You can get them for around .30cents each. Then use each bouquet as a centerpiece on every other table at the reception. Tulle is also VERY cheap. If you are having the ceremony and the reception at the ame place, focus on decorating the reception as that is where most of the time will be spent. Good luck!
Reply:To keep prices down and still get nice things here are a few ideas.
craigslist
ebay
goodwill ( the clear bowls that you see with floating candles are .99each - also sometimes you find new tings that people donate for whatever reason)
dollar store
walmart also check out there clearance aisle.
Good Luck
Reply:if the total weeding budget is $500 then the only way you cloud afford flowers is by steeling them from neighbour yard. Why don't you get balloons and not flowers? You could also cut off big branches from a tee spray paint it, put it in to a nice bucket, and hang off of it pictures, butterfly, flowers, beads, leaves..................
You could Gert all the girls and bake cakes and use them as centrepiece, or make candy apples and use them as deco
this is the idea
http://www.etherealdecor.com/crystal_wed...
http://www.manzanitacreations.com/
search manzanita trees if you like the idea. They could be used as centrepiece or if its relay big it could be used as alter
Reply:Start at your local dollar store such as Dollar Tree. They have tons of decorations - even for weddings - and it's definitely worth a trip to see what they have in store today. Look at sales at your local Garden Ridge, Michael's, Hobby Lobby, etc. and see what's on clearance. Consider asking a few friends or even family members for a small contribution ($50 to $100 per person) to help with the wedding costs. That would help you increase your budget.
Good luck!
Reply:Here's a wedding checklist that may help you out. And if it doesn't, at least it's funny!
http://www.bofads.com/stories/checklist....
Reply:Here are a couple of sites that may help.
http://www.thebridesbouquet.com/
http://www.save-on-crafts.com/gifandpac....
Reply:to start with go to any of the diy sites for bridal... plan what you want there. then go check out your local dollar store for the materials. most dollar stores where I am at has alot of wedding decorations I got 99% of mine there.. and yes looks nice.
Reply:for my wedding we used silk flowers from the dollar store , and we had our reception as a picnic outside , was real cheap, but looked great and everyone loved the out door reception , beer and wine was actually biggest exspence, good luck
Reply:My wedding was pink and brown and it was beautiful! I suggest going to hobby lobby (if you have that store) getting fake flowers. That's what I did. I got the pink calla lillies, they looked real. They are really cheap. I got alot of pink and brown ribbon. I outlined the top of my brides table with both of them. I got a thick brown ribbon and a thin pink one and put the pink one on top of the brown. I could go on and on. I had a tight budget as well, but it looked like I spent gobs of money.
Reply:Get disposable camera's for the table, that way they will have loads of pictures and cheap too... since they can drop them off to have them developed.
You can go to a fabric shop and get pink tulle and use brown table cloths, you can find different styles of vases both large and small, paint them and place fake flowers in them to decorate. Then, head to nature. We spray painted pine cones and such for our wedding as decorations and it looked fabulous!
For the service, you can decorate with fabric or ribbon, and can usually find it all pretty inexpensive to boot.
We did white tulle down the sides of the pews in our church, and used 3 silk flowers in my colors and hot glued it to the tulle at each pew. We only did the first few pews that would be seating for immediate family members.
I hope this helps!
Sunday, February 5, 2012
How to decorate?
We're doing a backyard reception at my parents' home. There will be about 25-30 guests. We'll only have a couple of tables with chairs on the (small-ish) deck, and the rest will just be blankets on the grass because their yard is a 30* hill. How do we decorate for a backyard wedding? There's a railing that goes around the deck that I can place things on but with only one or two tables, I don't know what I should do. Should I put flowers and/or favours on the railing? Any suggestions would be appreciated - I'm at a loss! Thanks!
How to decorate?
How about a picnic basket centerpiece for each blanket? The picnic basket could be artfully decorated with flowers, pinecones, etc.
Reply:Rent some tables and chairs to provide more comfort for the guests and also do blankets for the younger ones. Not having any place to sit is really uncomfortable; you could open up the house and have the tables there. Seating is crucial at an event like this.
Reply:I really like the picnic idea!
Reply:Be sure that there are enough chairs for everyone over 30 years old -- who will have trouble getting up and down from blankets on the grass. You might use tent-stakes to anchor blankets so that they don't slide down the hill. Most adults will simply choose not to sit -- especially if they are dressed up at all.
You could hang baskets of flowers (think a cone shaped holder) from the railing. The cones could also hold utensils, paper napkins, etc. that would free up counter and table top space. Hang them at different levels with long ribbons tied with a bow to the railing.
If you've got limited or no seating, all your food offerings should be bite-sized. Mini-burgers, tiny sandwiches, appetizers, cheese cubes, fruit on skewers, etc. so that all the people standing can manage a small plate and a drink. Nothing that requires a knife or fork, if you can!
Solo makes a disposable plate with a slit that holds a wine glass, so that you can hold both a plate and drink in one hand.
Save the railing for people to set down glasses and plates -- be sure that the area closest to the stairs is completely clear of obstacles.
Get rid of ANYTHING you can to free up standing room on the deck (the grill, even covered, takes up a lot of space).
Reply:maybe drape some tulle along the railing, with bows or flowers at each point where you connect the tulle to the rail. maybe a few potted plants around the perimeter, maybe with some christmas lights on them if you want.
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How to decorate?
How about a picnic basket centerpiece for each blanket? The picnic basket could be artfully decorated with flowers, pinecones, etc.
Reply:Rent some tables and chairs to provide more comfort for the guests and also do blankets for the younger ones. Not having any place to sit is really uncomfortable; you could open up the house and have the tables there. Seating is crucial at an event like this.
Reply:I really like the picnic idea!
Reply:Be sure that there are enough chairs for everyone over 30 years old -- who will have trouble getting up and down from blankets on the grass. You might use tent-stakes to anchor blankets so that they don't slide down the hill. Most adults will simply choose not to sit -- especially if they are dressed up at all.
You could hang baskets of flowers (think a cone shaped holder) from the railing. The cones could also hold utensils, paper napkins, etc. that would free up counter and table top space. Hang them at different levels with long ribbons tied with a bow to the railing.
If you've got limited or no seating, all your food offerings should be bite-sized. Mini-burgers, tiny sandwiches, appetizers, cheese cubes, fruit on skewers, etc. so that all the people standing can manage a small plate and a drink. Nothing that requires a knife or fork, if you can!
Solo makes a disposable plate with a slit that holds a wine glass, so that you can hold both a plate and drink in one hand.
Save the railing for people to set down glasses and plates -- be sure that the area closest to the stairs is completely clear of obstacles.
Get rid of ANYTHING you can to free up standing room on the deck (the grill, even covered, takes up a lot of space).
Reply:maybe drape some tulle along the railing, with bows or flowers at each point where you connect the tulle to the rail. maybe a few potted plants around the perimeter, maybe with some christmas lights on them if you want.
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Wedding flowers?
I am meeting with a florist next week to discuss floral decorations for my wedding. Does anyone know of a website I could visit where they have detailed pictures of wedding floral arrangments?
*The ceremony will be outdoors and the reception in a large ballroom.
Wedding flowers?
go to google images and do a search for wedding flowers. They will show you more pictures than you will know what to do with.
Reply:I suggest visiting weddinglenox.com and post your request. Their matching system http://www.weddinglenox.com/membersignup... will match you up with local vendors with pricing you specified. I tried it and have good result as I only recieved response from vendors according to my request.
One problem I had with my wedding is that it is hard to locate vendors in most website as most likely they group by states and there are too many of them that's too far from me and I have to look at each site to figure out.
The sites I provide above have a easy to use layout to show you pictures, pricing and location in one page plus, you can send out your inquiry for matching vendor to contact you. That save me lots of time to locate the best vendors with the right price.
Reply:Why don't you take a floral arrangement class or know of someone who has and buy roses from samsclub.com, they're real cheap. This is what I would try first.
Reply:Go to www.theknot.com, and do yourself a HUGE favor by creating an account! They are extremely helpful and they show a wide variety of "Real Weddings" that will give you tons of ideas. Also, check out your local Barnes and Noble (or whatever bookstore) and look through their Weddings and Ettiquette section - there are a bunch of books JUST for floral arrangements.
Reply:theknot.com is awesome! Also try google images or yahoo images to see tons of pictures of flowers.
Reply:try theknot.com and weddingchannel.com
they were really helpful.
if not there was this really cool book in the book store that went into a lot of detail.
Reply:I would definitely recommened "The knot" for online, but you might also want to get a magazine called "Bridal Blooms", it is a magazine just with wedding flowers. It would also be good too because then you can take those pictures iwth you to the florist. Im a florist and its always nice to have pictures that the bride has already picked out herself because it gives me a starting point for designing
Reply:Do a search like:
"wedding floral arrangements" or
wedding bouquets
Reply:look online. your florist should also be able to show you some of their examples from previous weddings. any wedding website should give you ideas.
*The ceremony will be outdoors and the reception in a large ballroom.
Wedding flowers?
go to google images and do a search for wedding flowers. They will show you more pictures than you will know what to do with.
Reply:I suggest visiting weddinglenox.com and post your request. Their matching system http://www.weddinglenox.com/membersignup... will match you up with local vendors with pricing you specified. I tried it and have good result as I only recieved response from vendors according to my request.
One problem I had with my wedding is that it is hard to locate vendors in most website as most likely they group by states and there are too many of them that's too far from me and I have to look at each site to figure out.
The sites I provide above have a easy to use layout to show you pictures, pricing and location in one page plus, you can send out your inquiry for matching vendor to contact you. That save me lots of time to locate the best vendors with the right price.
Reply:Why don't you take a floral arrangement class or know of someone who has and buy roses from samsclub.com, they're real cheap. This is what I would try first.
Reply:Go to www.theknot.com, and do yourself a HUGE favor by creating an account! They are extremely helpful and they show a wide variety of "Real Weddings" that will give you tons of ideas. Also, check out your local Barnes and Noble (or whatever bookstore) and look through their Weddings and Ettiquette section - there are a bunch of books JUST for floral arrangements.
Reply:theknot.com is awesome! Also try google images or yahoo images to see tons of pictures of flowers.
Reply:try theknot.com and weddingchannel.com
they were really helpful.
if not there was this really cool book in the book store that went into a lot of detail.
Reply:I would definitely recommened "The knot" for online, but you might also want to get a magazine called "Bridal Blooms", it is a magazine just with wedding flowers. It would also be good too because then you can take those pictures iwth you to the florist. Im a florist and its always nice to have pictures that the bride has already picked out herself because it gives me a starting point for designing
Reply:Do a search like:
"wedding floral arrangements" or
wedding bouquets
Reply:look online. your florist should also be able to show you some of their examples from previous weddings. any wedding website should give you ideas.
Why do you even try with men?
They bring nothing but unhappiness anyway. The one I was with courted me, and gave me flowers, and what not, until I fell in love. Then there was that woman, so very pretty! And I am nothing, just long and thin. She just appeared, smiled at him a couple of times, and off he went. She wasn't even that a good person, but made her living off men, and gave my then ex two STDs at once (which she picked off someone else). Some time after I met another. He was "in love" with me, too. We even decided to marry. While I cleaned his house from top to bottom for the reception, he was out with a solid, big woman who owed a grocery store. Not much to look at, but a woman of property. Off he went with her, a week before that wedding, and it turned out that I cleaned the house for her.
Why even try to be nice or pleasant, or anything? They will go away with some pretty con artist, or some owner of this or that. It feels so devastating, they can be only kept by looks or money.
Why do you even try with men?
My apology of all your bad experience with man. You have met all the devils and I hope you will meet a nice guy an dyou will see the other side of the coin. Until than best of luck and hopefully you will get the sunshine you deserve my dear.
Reply:It helps if you can cook too
Reply:Sorry to hear about this . Unfortunatley there are alot of men out there that are jerks . It sux when you have to find that out this way . But not all men are like that . You were better off not with them anyway . I mean they are the one's who are worst off . I know it will be hard to understand this . But just take your time and know what to look out for . One day a true man will be in your life .And he will do what it takes to want and keep your love .
Reply:...The thing is no matter how painful they hurt us wee need them to feel loved..WE need emotional security from them and we need the attention....
There's no such thing as living without the male species because we live for them and they live for us...Not even one independent woman could live without a man...So, dont fret!
Just think that not all relationships are the same...YOu may feel so low at this one but be assured that the next one coming will certainly have a difference....=)
Reply:what is your question exactly?
Reply:sorry you got hurt but dont give up on men. you will find that special person just dont give up. there are some guys that are jerks and betray their "loved" ones but there are still some decent ones out there and if you keep looking you will find him
Reply:first off guys are a bunch of whores second other sluty girls get jeliouse becus of your new bf n thay do anything to take him away from you so drpession sets in and you feel like killing your self till you find some one else n damm it a big *** fing cycle of depression n confusing o joy its called life n it really suxs
Reply:Hey, there there.. I am sorry you suffered that. That must be painful. I was married to a very pretty turkish girl, and I was very devastated at the hatred i suffered by the community and then eventually her family except the youngest sister loved me. Still does. but anyhow so i had to divorce her because eventually she called me a ****** too. So hatred breeds hatred and love breeds love. When you love those who hate you then you bring back yourself love. Then one day you might meet a guy with a similar story who got hurt like you did, you two then click based on your experience and you like each other and know your need for love. It's a big world out there and that is not hard to find since so many cheat out here man and woman.
Anyways just a thought.
Reply:I'm so sorry that you were hurt by those two jerks. They don't deserve someone like you. Don't give up on love just because of them two. Take some time for yourself to heal, but one day your heart will tell you that you are ready for love again. This time, you should look closely and pick a person with values and ethics. We all have dated jerks at one point or another, we learn from our experiences and grow as a person. You should be happy that your ex boyfriends got what they deserved by dating those two women.
Reply:It is a bad situation but you will do more harm if you feel sorry for urself. Take life as it comes and be bold in life no matter what. i know its easier said than done...!! all the best
Reply:I am sorry about your experience. But have in mind that not all men are like you described. Maybe, the guys that you dated were players, maybe they wanted to take advantage of you or maybe it was something that you did to scare them. I do not know you and I cannot give you a factual explanation. But I can assure you, that there are guys out there that can cherish and love a woman. And maybe some of them are having the same problem you have. Keep on looking. There is no written blackboard in the sky with our destiny. We create our own. Maybe one day, you will be happier than all that hurt you. Love yourself, and others will love you. Good luck!
Why even try to be nice or pleasant, or anything? They will go away with some pretty con artist, or some owner of this or that. It feels so devastating, they can be only kept by looks or money.
Why do you even try with men?
My apology of all your bad experience with man. You have met all the devils and I hope you will meet a nice guy an dyou will see the other side of the coin. Until than best of luck and hopefully you will get the sunshine you deserve my dear.
Reply:It helps if you can cook too
Reply:Sorry to hear about this . Unfortunatley there are alot of men out there that are jerks . It sux when you have to find that out this way . But not all men are like that . You were better off not with them anyway . I mean they are the one's who are worst off . I know it will be hard to understand this . But just take your time and know what to look out for . One day a true man will be in your life .And he will do what it takes to want and keep your love .
Reply:...The thing is no matter how painful they hurt us wee need them to feel loved..WE need emotional security from them and we need the attention....
There's no such thing as living without the male species because we live for them and they live for us...Not even one independent woman could live without a man...So, dont fret!
Just think that not all relationships are the same...YOu may feel so low at this one but be assured that the next one coming will certainly have a difference....=)
Reply:what is your question exactly?
Reply:sorry you got hurt but dont give up on men. you will find that special person just dont give up. there are some guys that are jerks and betray their "loved" ones but there are still some decent ones out there and if you keep looking you will find him
Reply:first off guys are a bunch of whores second other sluty girls get jeliouse becus of your new bf n thay do anything to take him away from you so drpession sets in and you feel like killing your self till you find some one else n damm it a big *** fing cycle of depression n confusing o joy its called life n it really suxs
Reply:Hey, there there.. I am sorry you suffered that. That must be painful. I was married to a very pretty turkish girl, and I was very devastated at the hatred i suffered by the community and then eventually her family except the youngest sister loved me. Still does. but anyhow so i had to divorce her because eventually she called me a ****** too. So hatred breeds hatred and love breeds love. When you love those who hate you then you bring back yourself love. Then one day you might meet a guy with a similar story who got hurt like you did, you two then click based on your experience and you like each other and know your need for love. It's a big world out there and that is not hard to find since so many cheat out here man and woman.
Anyways just a thought.
Reply:I'm so sorry that you were hurt by those two jerks. They don't deserve someone like you. Don't give up on love just because of them two. Take some time for yourself to heal, but one day your heart will tell you that you are ready for love again. This time, you should look closely and pick a person with values and ethics. We all have dated jerks at one point or another, we learn from our experiences and grow as a person. You should be happy that your ex boyfriends got what they deserved by dating those two women.
Reply:It is a bad situation but you will do more harm if you feel sorry for urself. Take life as it comes and be bold in life no matter what. i know its easier said than done...!! all the best
Reply:I am sorry about your experience. But have in mind that not all men are like you described. Maybe, the guys that you dated were players, maybe they wanted to take advantage of you or maybe it was something that you did to scare them. I do not know you and I cannot give you a factual explanation. But I can assure you, that there are guys out there that can cherish and love a woman. And maybe some of them are having the same problem you have. Keep on looking. There is no written blackboard in the sky with our destiny. We create our own. Maybe one day, you will be happier than all that hurt you. Love yourself, and others will love you. Good luck!
How do these look together (links)?
It is a late spring semi garden wedding and our colours are Cream, Green and Black.
What do you think is these as an overall package?
Do you think anything dosen't 'fit'?
Suggestions welcome
Invitations:
http://www.weddingpaperdivas.com/product...
Reception: Cream lanterns with Topiary trees
http://www.flickr.com/photos/stiffydagol...
Centrpieces: Green Hydrangeas and potted moss with black damask candles
http://www.flickr.com/photos/stiffydagol...
http://www.flickr.com/photos/stiffydagol...
Cake: But Cream with subtle green banding
http://www.flickr.com/photos/stiffydagol...
Flowers: Cream, I'm thinking all Peonies...
http://www.flickr.com/photos/stiffydagol...
Maids dresses: Black, green and cream.
http://smg.photobucket.com/albums/v54/de...
http://cgi.ebay.com.au/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?...
How do these look together (links)?
everything looks great, but I just dont like the invites I think the black desige looks a little harsh. the rest is nice though.
Reply:I'm partial to all your choices, very similar to my wedding last July. We did antique green hydrangeas and cream roses for flowers/accessories. It's so much easier when you have a color scheme in mind to find the perfect touches, isn't it? That flower bouquet is gorgeous, but it is SO hard to get peonies unless they are in season (May/June). I wanted them so bad for my wedding and my florist absolutely could not get them in late July. I've ordered from weddingpaperdivas.com before and they are awesome by the way. I'd say everything is very cohesive and elegant, nothing is sticking out as not belonging.
Reply:Are you wearing a cream colored dress, or diamond white? Just curious, if you're doing cream colored, you may want to add some green flowers (hydrangas) to your bouqet. If you don't the bouqet will be washed out in the pictures (just my opinion). You could always have your girls carry a cream bouqet and you could have a green and cream bouqet to set you apart. Just thinking about how photos will look with you and your flowers matching....
Reply:I think everything fits together nicely. Those colors are so nice together as well. I especially love the lanterns and the topiary trees. My mom is making topiaries to use on either side of my card box so I just love them. Very nice and natural looking all together. Will be a very elegant wedding!
Reply:Everything is a 10, escept not sure about the dresses. I like the bodice and color as long as they're not mini dresses, which is kind of edgy for something as elegant as what you're doing.
Reply:think that will all go together beautifully. What you have is unique and original, people will remember it as that and not just another traditional wedding. I love it!
Reply:I think that you have utterly exquisite taste, and that maybe you should come to Vegas and help me with my wedding!
Reply:All of it would look very good together! You have some nice taste and a knack for combining and creating it seems!
Reply:I personally like it.
Reply:Simple and Elegant. I love it! Best wishes.
???
What do you think is these as an overall package?
Do you think anything dosen't 'fit'?
Suggestions welcome
Invitations:
http://www.weddingpaperdivas.com/product...
Reception: Cream lanterns with Topiary trees
http://www.flickr.com/photos/stiffydagol...
Centrpieces: Green Hydrangeas and potted moss with black damask candles
http://www.flickr.com/photos/stiffydagol...
http://www.flickr.com/photos/stiffydagol...
Cake: But Cream with subtle green banding
http://www.flickr.com/photos/stiffydagol...
Flowers: Cream, I'm thinking all Peonies...
http://www.flickr.com/photos/stiffydagol...
Maids dresses: Black, green and cream.
http://smg.photobucket.com/albums/v54/de...
http://cgi.ebay.com.au/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?...
How do these look together (links)?
everything looks great, but I just dont like the invites I think the black desige looks a little harsh. the rest is nice though.
Reply:I'm partial to all your choices, very similar to my wedding last July. We did antique green hydrangeas and cream roses for flowers/accessories. It's so much easier when you have a color scheme in mind to find the perfect touches, isn't it? That flower bouquet is gorgeous, but it is SO hard to get peonies unless they are in season (May/June). I wanted them so bad for my wedding and my florist absolutely could not get them in late July. I've ordered from weddingpaperdivas.com before and they are awesome by the way. I'd say everything is very cohesive and elegant, nothing is sticking out as not belonging.
Reply:Are you wearing a cream colored dress, or diamond white? Just curious, if you're doing cream colored, you may want to add some green flowers (hydrangas) to your bouqet. If you don't the bouqet will be washed out in the pictures (just my opinion). You could always have your girls carry a cream bouqet and you could have a green and cream bouqet to set you apart. Just thinking about how photos will look with you and your flowers matching....
Reply:I think everything fits together nicely. Those colors are so nice together as well. I especially love the lanterns and the topiary trees. My mom is making topiaries to use on either side of my card box so I just love them. Very nice and natural looking all together. Will be a very elegant wedding!
Reply:Everything is a 10, escept not sure about the dresses. I like the bodice and color as long as they're not mini dresses, which is kind of edgy for something as elegant as what you're doing.
Reply:think that will all go together beautifully. What you have is unique and original, people will remember it as that and not just another traditional wedding. I love it!
Reply:I think that you have utterly exquisite taste, and that maybe you should come to Vegas and help me with my wedding!
Reply:All of it would look very good together! You have some nice taste and a knack for combining and creating it seems!
Reply:I personally like it.
Reply:Simple and Elegant. I love it! Best wishes.
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Do you feel your only allowed so many bridezilla moments?
As a bride... I feel I'm entitled to only so many "bridezilla" moments.. and i'm not saying it's one of those stomp your feet and have a temper tantrum moments, but you know.. its only of those things.. where it has to be this way. or nothing else :)
I'm allowing myself 5! :)
they are:
1. I want to wear flip flops.. as they are comfy and no one is going to see my feet.
2. I want to continue lawn surfing.. as it's fun.. and my legs have healed from the last time :)
3. My ring bearer ended up getting a mowhawk a month before the wedding.. and his hair better grow back! and it better not be blue either!
4. I wanted lilacs for my flowers.. but they are already blooming here.. SO we might have to have them imported from Holland.. I think it's a must... we just might have to postpone to next year...
SO I'm hoping it's not going to cost a lot to make sure they are there...
5. I don't want to give a big speach at the reception..
Those are mine..
What are yours?
Do you feel your only allowed so many bridezilla moments?
I have to say #4 is total Bridezilla- yikes!
I felt like a bridezilla (although my very honest %26amp; forward MOH said I'm not) about my bridesmaids dresses. I want them to choose their own from a particular designer and I feel like a bridezilla telling them the "requirements" for their dress: tea length or longer, jacket-shawl or short sleeves so they are dressed properly for the ceremony in church, matching shoes, chiffon fabric, and they've got to run it past me before they buy so I can ensure the dresses all look good together (my BMs are spread out so I doubt they will all be together at one time for dress shopping).
There are other things I am insisting on:
No Chicken Dance or Macarena (I hate them)
No rap, hip-hop or club-type music (hate it!)
No costumes (my wedding is on Halloween)
Reply:I dont think those a re bridezilla moments, I think its jsut the way you want things. You are entitled to ahve you special day be just that for you.
The flip flops are a great idea, you want to be comfy
Can he shave off the mohawk?
Bridezilla to me is whtn you make other epopel do crazy things to make you happy! You arent doign that!
Reply:I think having certain things you want for yoru wedding aren't bridezilla moments. That's what planning is all about. I personally don't think any bride is entitled to any, and if one slips out, she needs to apologize for her bad behavior, just like anyone else in any other situation.
Reply:My dad is not allowed to spike his hair (midlife crisis much, hello). That's about it so far, ask me in 10 days when its the rehearsal and I have to lay the smack down on the groomsmen, I'm sure there will be more.
Reply:its your wedding.... have as many moments as you want. you only get one wedding and its going to be the best day of your life. make it how you want it!!
Reply:i dont know because i am not married and i will not get marred till i am old enought to get married so yeah what do u think
Reply:I had nary a one. We planned a lovely, traditional wedding for 200 - and all went well! Guess it's a maturity factor...
Reply:Can I come? #2 sounds like a lot of fun!!!
I didn't have any bridezilla moments but it's your wedding so have as many as you want.
Reply:I feel your pain! I only think one of those are true bridezillas tho! I am known to stress...or 'freak out' as some might claim, so I have promised myself I won't have any bridezilla monents just to prove everyone wrong. They watched that show and insist (before the proposal) that I was going to be just like that, especially my mom. So in order to keep my sanity, I started planning early and they can all suck it! I have until Oct. 11 and the only thing that's really gonna make me snap is one sucky BM and the grooms dad has stated he won't wear a tux. Fine, you don't wanna wear a tux, I don't want you in the pics! We'll see how that goes!
Best of luck and congrats!
Reply:i think as long as your bridezilla moments affect yourself and not other people involved, go ahead.... delaying a wedding over getting exact flowers?! wow, definately a bridezilla moment, but as long as that doesn't affect people goign to the wedding (travel costs, accomodations, dresses, etc.) then i don't care.... just try not to torture your bridesmaids.... i have a bride that is torturing me so i beg of you :) it's your wedding day, go do whatever you want for it lol just keep some lines on what you force other people to do....
Reply:I agree with everyone of yours except #4. Dont delay your wedding over flowers. I wanted to wear flip flops too, but my mom talked me into pretty shoes bc every one does see them when the groom takes the garter off your leg I just got low heels. And don't worry about anyone else. Everyone tells me that I have bridezilla moments just because the damn groomsman want to wear different colors of ties and I wont let them, and I just don't listen to anyone and agree with my self bc that'd be ugly!
dress shoes
I'm allowing myself 5! :)
they are:
1. I want to wear flip flops.. as they are comfy and no one is going to see my feet.
2. I want to continue lawn surfing.. as it's fun.. and my legs have healed from the last time :)
3. My ring bearer ended up getting a mowhawk a month before the wedding.. and his hair better grow back! and it better not be blue either!
4. I wanted lilacs for my flowers.. but they are already blooming here.. SO we might have to have them imported from Holland.. I think it's a must... we just might have to postpone to next year...
SO I'm hoping it's not going to cost a lot to make sure they are there...
5. I don't want to give a big speach at the reception..
Those are mine..
What are yours?
Do you feel your only allowed so many bridezilla moments?
I have to say #4 is total Bridezilla- yikes!
I felt like a bridezilla (although my very honest %26amp; forward MOH said I'm not) about my bridesmaids dresses. I want them to choose their own from a particular designer and I feel like a bridezilla telling them the "requirements" for their dress: tea length or longer, jacket-shawl or short sleeves so they are dressed properly for the ceremony in church, matching shoes, chiffon fabric, and they've got to run it past me before they buy so I can ensure the dresses all look good together (my BMs are spread out so I doubt they will all be together at one time for dress shopping).
There are other things I am insisting on:
No Chicken Dance or Macarena (I hate them)
No rap, hip-hop or club-type music (hate it!)
No costumes (my wedding is on Halloween)
Reply:I dont think those a re bridezilla moments, I think its jsut the way you want things. You are entitled to ahve you special day be just that for you.
The flip flops are a great idea, you want to be comfy
Can he shave off the mohawk?
Bridezilla to me is whtn you make other epopel do crazy things to make you happy! You arent doign that!
Reply:I think having certain things you want for yoru wedding aren't bridezilla moments. That's what planning is all about. I personally don't think any bride is entitled to any, and if one slips out, she needs to apologize for her bad behavior, just like anyone else in any other situation.
Reply:My dad is not allowed to spike his hair (midlife crisis much, hello). That's about it so far, ask me in 10 days when its the rehearsal and I have to lay the smack down on the groomsmen, I'm sure there will be more.
Reply:its your wedding.... have as many moments as you want. you only get one wedding and its going to be the best day of your life. make it how you want it!!
Reply:i dont know because i am not married and i will not get marred till i am old enought to get married so yeah what do u think
Reply:I had nary a one. We planned a lovely, traditional wedding for 200 - and all went well! Guess it's a maturity factor...
Reply:Can I come? #2 sounds like a lot of fun!!!
I didn't have any bridezilla moments but it's your wedding so have as many as you want.
Reply:I feel your pain! I only think one of those are true bridezillas tho! I am known to stress...or 'freak out' as some might claim, so I have promised myself I won't have any bridezilla monents just to prove everyone wrong. They watched that show and insist (before the proposal) that I was going to be just like that, especially my mom. So in order to keep my sanity, I started planning early and they can all suck it! I have until Oct. 11 and the only thing that's really gonna make me snap is one sucky BM and the grooms dad has stated he won't wear a tux. Fine, you don't wanna wear a tux, I don't want you in the pics! We'll see how that goes!
Best of luck and congrats!
Reply:i think as long as your bridezilla moments affect yourself and not other people involved, go ahead.... delaying a wedding over getting exact flowers?! wow, definately a bridezilla moment, but as long as that doesn't affect people goign to the wedding (travel costs, accomodations, dresses, etc.) then i don't care.... just try not to torture your bridesmaids.... i have a bride that is torturing me so i beg of you :) it's your wedding day, go do whatever you want for it lol just keep some lines on what you force other people to do....
Reply:I agree with everyone of yours except #4. Dont delay your wedding over flowers. I wanted to wear flip flops too, but my mom talked me into pretty shoes bc every one does see them when the groom takes the garter off your leg I just got low heels. And don't worry about anyone else. Everyone tells me that I have bridezilla moments just because the damn groomsman want to wear different colors of ties and I wont let them, and I just don't listen to anyone and agree with my self bc that'd be ugly!
dress shoes
Is it normal to think about weddings and getting married all the time???
So, I think about wedding, and getting married all the time. When I see a bridal magazine, I tear through it. I'm not engaged, nor do I have a boyfriend. When I hear a love song, the first thing I think of is if it would be a good "first dance" song. I already know what my colors will be, what flowers I will use, who will be my bridesmaids, and how I'll do my hair. I've also been thinking of where to have the reception. Am I just being a typical girl, I mean, do other girls do this too, or am I being way outta line?
Is it normal to think about weddings and getting married all the time???
yes that is normal because that is what girls and women do. they dream of their BIG DAY!!
Reply:Its not abnormal to think about your wedding day before it happens. For women their wedding is a big deal and one of the most special moments. I think that it would become a problem if your love with the idea of getting married and having a wedding becomes an obsession. If you are taking the day to try on wedding dresses instead of going to work…if its interfering with you life and daily activities then yes it has become a problem. If not then there is no harm in dreaming about your special day and thinking about it ahead of time.
Good Luck
Reply:I've been doing this for years. I just love weddings (I love party planning, in general).
I think it's OK as long as it remains a hobby/guilty pleasure. As long as you aren't looking to get married, just for the sake of the party or pressuring boyfriends (when you have them) to propose. It's OK.
We all need a guilty pleasure. If looking at wedding related stuff is yours, OK than. Just make sure it's doesn't become something that alienates you from friends, loved ones or potential boyfriends.
If this is the worst thing you do, I wouldn't be worried. There are worse hobbies you could have, like drinking, drugs, gambling, sex addictions.....you get the idea!
Have fun browsing!
Reply:Girls do dream about it, but be realistic enough to realize that when you do meet that special guy, he's going to want to have input too. I always dreamed of a beach wedding, and we had a church wedding instead because my fiance was not into destination weddings.
My dress, engagement ring, and cake did not look like what I had envisioned while in my teens and early 20s (I married at 25), but I loved them more than the dreams that I used to have. In addition, my bridal party changed significantly as most of my bridesmaids were my friends from grad school (not high school or bachelors' degree of college).
Dream all you want, get subscriptions to bridal magazines (I did, it saves money from buying them every month)! Just keep in mind that your future guy may not dream everything exactly the way you do... although mine was totally cool with wearing the purple roses that I always wanted in his boutonniere. *SMILE*
I think all girls dream about their wedding day and about getting married... it's the little princess inside of us all. Out of line? Nah -- that would be if you'd bought stuff for your wedding already. Then I'd say you were going overboard! :)
Reply:I think its wonderfull for you to think about this. A wedding is a beautiful experience but I advise you not to sell yourself short by settling for just shacking up with someone, that can really dull the experience. Wait for the right person who will wait for you. I would also advise you to think about what kind of marriage you will have, how will you work out problems (all marriages have them), how to handle money, how many children etc. Many people plan for the wedding but not for the marriage. God created you to be joined to another, in fact He performed the first wedding in the Garden of Eden when He gave Eve to Adam. Ths Bible also talks about a marriage to come when the followers of Jesus (the bride of Christ) will be joined together with the Bridegroom (Jesus). There will be feasts and celebrations such as we have never seen. To take part in this you must put your trust in Jesus today and become His follower, you will become His bride and He is the greatest lover of all. You will not be disappointed.
Reply:I'm guessing you're in your early 20s? It's very typical but don't jump the gun and marry the first guy that comes along to experience that or parenthood. I know there are girls who have done that and staying w/ someone you don't truly love sucks (as well as divorce).
Reply:Haha, I did this my whole life, every girl dreams about her big day!
Reply:I think you are fine! Some people always dream about getting married, so it is no big deal. Just remember, you have to find the guy first and you don't want to settle for some guy just because you want to get married!
Is it normal to think about weddings and getting married all the time???
yes that is normal because that is what girls and women do. they dream of their BIG DAY!!
Reply:Its not abnormal to think about your wedding day before it happens. For women their wedding is a big deal and one of the most special moments. I think that it would become a problem if your love with the idea of getting married and having a wedding becomes an obsession. If you are taking the day to try on wedding dresses instead of going to work…if its interfering with you life and daily activities then yes it has become a problem. If not then there is no harm in dreaming about your special day and thinking about it ahead of time.
Good Luck
Reply:I've been doing this for years. I just love weddings (I love party planning, in general).
I think it's OK as long as it remains a hobby/guilty pleasure. As long as you aren't looking to get married, just for the sake of the party or pressuring boyfriends (when you have them) to propose. It's OK.
We all need a guilty pleasure. If looking at wedding related stuff is yours, OK than. Just make sure it's doesn't become something that alienates you from friends, loved ones or potential boyfriends.
If this is the worst thing you do, I wouldn't be worried. There are worse hobbies you could have, like drinking, drugs, gambling, sex addictions.....you get the idea!
Have fun browsing!
Reply:Girls do dream about it, but be realistic enough to realize that when you do meet that special guy, he's going to want to have input too. I always dreamed of a beach wedding, and we had a church wedding instead because my fiance was not into destination weddings.
My dress, engagement ring, and cake did not look like what I had envisioned while in my teens and early 20s (I married at 25), but I loved them more than the dreams that I used to have. In addition, my bridal party changed significantly as most of my bridesmaids were my friends from grad school (not high school or bachelors' degree of college).
Dream all you want, get subscriptions to bridal magazines (I did, it saves money from buying them every month)! Just keep in mind that your future guy may not dream everything exactly the way you do... although mine was totally cool with wearing the purple roses that I always wanted in his boutonniere. *SMILE*
I think all girls dream about their wedding day and about getting married... it's the little princess inside of us all. Out of line? Nah -- that would be if you'd bought stuff for your wedding already. Then I'd say you were going overboard! :)
Reply:I think its wonderfull for you to think about this. A wedding is a beautiful experience but I advise you not to sell yourself short by settling for just shacking up with someone, that can really dull the experience. Wait for the right person who will wait for you. I would also advise you to think about what kind of marriage you will have, how will you work out problems (all marriages have them), how to handle money, how many children etc. Many people plan for the wedding but not for the marriage. God created you to be joined to another, in fact He performed the first wedding in the Garden of Eden when He gave Eve to Adam. Ths Bible also talks about a marriage to come when the followers of Jesus (the bride of Christ) will be joined together with the Bridegroom (Jesus). There will be feasts and celebrations such as we have never seen. To take part in this you must put your trust in Jesus today and become His follower, you will become His bride and He is the greatest lover of all. You will not be disappointed.
Reply:I'm guessing you're in your early 20s? It's very typical but don't jump the gun and marry the first guy that comes along to experience that or parenthood. I know there are girls who have done that and staying w/ someone you don't truly love sucks (as well as divorce).
Reply:Haha, I did this my whole life, every girl dreams about her big day!
Reply:I think you are fine! Some people always dream about getting married, so it is no big deal. Just remember, you have to find the guy first and you don't want to settle for some guy just because you want to get married!
Black and ivory input!?
have a few Q's...
i'm doing a black/ivory or black/white wedding (depending on how white or not white my dress is) with a hot pink or fuschia accent.
for the reception i want to do mainly black/white (or ivory) with a little bit of accent color here and there.
1. black or white tablecloths? which ones are easier to rent or find?
2. black or white napkins?
3. black or white chairs?
4. black or white dishes? which is easier to rent? which looks better?
5. where would i put my accent w/ all the black and white? just in the flowers? (which i want to be hot pink gerber daisies)
6.it will be in a small church...how would i decorate an itty bitty white country church w/out overdoing it but still keeping w/ the theme?
7. what are the easiest, cutest, funnest centerpieces i could do?
8. would i need placecards or seating assignments for 60 guests?
9. i want to do cupcakes for my 'wedding cake'. how many cupcakes would be best for 60 guests? i would like some extra left over.
Black and ivory input!?
1. I think black and white are so common for weddings so either wouldn't be hard to find. I'm sure white would be easiest sense it's used the most. Sense a table is a big piece in the room the lighter you keep it the bigger the room is so black tablecloths might make it look darker and smaller.
2. Use a color of napkin the contrasts the color of tablecloth you go with. Like if you use white tablecloths use black napkins. It'll give you a good combination of negative and positive space (dark and light).
3. Match your chairs the tablecloths to keep everything fluid. What about bows for the chairs? These things...
http://www.wedding-ireland.com/images/ch...
(the red part) why don't you do a fuschia chair bow too?
4. I'd say white dishes are going to be the easiest to find but I'm sure you could find some to rent with black decorative accents in them! Something like this...
http://www.plumparty.com/Merchant2/graph...
http://www.gallery19.us/images/630-03358...
http://www.canyoncountrycandleco.com/car...
5. Great choice with the Gerber Daisies! Those are my best friends fave flowers and is using them in hers as well. There are just SO CUTE! Yes def. use the fuschia in the Gerbers. Maybe as centerpieces! Black or black and white vases (Rentable), and just a few Gerbers in each one. That would look super cute! Also the chair covers again is a good way to add your punch of accent color to the rest of the table. My other idea I'll get to in the seating cards question.
6. Do a white isle runner with a black border and then line the border with fuschia petals on each side! I love the way that looks and you can get fake petals (That wont stain your dress), at just about any hobby/craft store. Like this but with the white runner and black border (hot pink petals)...
http://www.theflowerhouseweddings.com/im...
Put white bows (Tulle is great for this and pretty inexpensive) in the pews and stick in 2 or 3 Gerbers.
http://www.maryrose.com.au/images/Pew_Bo...
For the alter just do a large vase of flowers in your colors on the candle tables and maybe some small potted flowers on either side (you or someone you love can take them home and let them live and grow). Sense it's a church the alter should already be pretty decorated right? You don't want to overpower what the church already has.
7. On the centerpieces if you do the ones I suggested above you can rent long vases from just about any rental store and all you'd have to do is take 3 - 5 freshly cute Gerber's and stick them in there (vary them in length so some are taller than others only slightly) and TADA! lol so easy to do yourself.
8. I would only if you want certain people to sit with others. Or if a lot of your guests wont know each other. If they don't know but a few people there it might turn into the seating in the lunchroom back in high school where things get clique-y. If that makes any sense. Then people who may just know you will feel like the odd ones out and wont know where to go. If you are having a sit down dinner where plates are brought out this may also be a good instance for needing a seating arrangement. If none of these apply to you than by no means do you need to spend the extra money! You should have tables reserved for family close to your head table though!
If you do want to do seating cards a cheap way to do it yourself is to buy card stock online. I love this one site called paper and more. They are so nice and have GREAT products! I ordered the pearlescent card stock in silver for my invites and I loved it! this one...
http://paperandmore.com/metallic_paper_s...
If you have a good printer or know someone who would let you use their this is a great idea! It will help you incorperate fuschia into your table decor more as well. Use this paper...
http://paperandmore.com/metallic_cardsto... it's $30.99 for 100 sheets of card stock (thicker paper) and $5.00 to get them cut to size. The only other thing you'd have to pay for is the black ink! I'd get it cut maybe 3 1/2 inches by 6 inches so you can fold them in half and they stand up on their own.
An even cheaper version would be to use hot pink Vellum (tranclusant "paper" that you can print on). It's only $18.99 for 100 sheets and the $5.00 to cut.
http://paperandmore.com/vellum_paper_vio...
Text paper is barely thicker than regular printer paper but it's made of a much better quality and comes in a million more colors and textures. So it wont be thick but would still fold and stand up on it's own...
http://paperandmore.com/metallic_paper_p...
EDIT: I forgot the last question! On the cake I am doing cupcakes too! Exactly like the link you showed except with purple, silver and white. It was cheaper to do cupcakes for us and I like how cute it looks. If you or your family are baking the cupcakes it would be super cheap to go to a bakery and ask for just a 6 inch round for the top tier! You might also want to ask the bakery you go with or your rental store about a cake stand and the different varieties. I rented mine seperately in silver so I wouldnt have to use a plastic one. I like the one used in the link you provided! That cake is gorgious! 6 inch rounds are so inexpensive you could go with just about anyone, get just about any flavor and filling, decorating and frosting and it would still save you more money than having a whole cake made by them. If you want extra I would go with anywhere between 75 and 85 cupcakes. Unless they are super small and bite sized I'm pretty sure that all 60 WONT go for a second one. It also depends on what other food you will be serving. If its a big buffet eveyone will most likely be busting at the seems already. If you're having a afternoon reception it's more likely that people will have 2 cupcakes each so then maybe you'd need more like 120.
I know this was long sorry! I hope one of these ideas or links helps you out a little bit!
Congratulations!
Reply:I am also doing a black and white color scheme. Here's what I have figured so far. (funny, i am doing a cupcake cake too)
1. I was going to alternate black and white cloths, but decided on black
2. with the black table cloths I will have white napkins
3%26gt; white chairs are way easier to find and rent
4. Also, it is easier to rent white dishes, which is how I decided on the black table cloths and white napkins
5. I would do the accent colors with the flowers yes, and possibly a sash or something on your bridesmaids dresses, or flower girl somehow. Also, maybe a splash of pink on your cupcakes or the small cake at the top. Your place cards could also be pink. as well as your favors or favor boxes
6. You don't have to decorate the church. If you wanted to you could do something on the ends of everyother pew such as round pomanders in white or pink.
7. You could just get short square clear vases and put a few daisies in each one. Very easy and simple.
8. I would say go with a seating assignment so that way people won't feel awkward asking..."is this seat taken" it just makes everything easier.
9. I guess 60-70 cupcakes would be good, b/c not everyone is going to eat one.
You can just go to any bakery and ask them to make a small cake that serves about 4 people. Take that picture with you.
Look on www.theknot.com for great ideas for flower centerpieces.
Reply:My opinion is:
* White tablecloths
* Black napkins, with a very thin ribbon white and pink
* white chairs
* White plates.... I would think it is easier to rent
* I think do your flowers very simple, and add some black and pink ribbon here and there but no too much.
* I just made a test centerpiece for my self, feel free to take any ideas.
I got my ideas from this pictures:
http://www.flickr.com/photos/24809251@N0...
http://www.flickr.com/photos/24809251@N0...
And here is my experiment:
http://www.flickr.com/photos/24809251@N0...
http://www.flickr.com/photos/24809251@N0...
http://www.flickr.com/photos/24809251@N0...
http://www.flickr.com/photos/24809251@N0...
http://www.flickr.com/photos/24809251@N0...
I have the seashell theme, but you can put Cristal rocks....
* yes for the place cards
* I heard you are supposed to have from 2 to 3 cupcakes per guest, if the cupcakes are small.
I hope this is of some help..... good luck!!!
Reply:Don't over do on the black if the church is small. Go with white table cloths maybe a small black cloth over the top double layer them. See if you can find the napkins in white with black around the edges. Or go with both, are the chairs being covered or bows on them? If you are placing bows on them then go with the black chairs and white ribbons. You will find that most places have white everything on hand to rent easier than a color. Depending on how large the rental location is. Go with both for the dishes, mix the large plates with the small plates on top, black bottom-white top, next to that one place the white bottom-black top if possible.
You could mix the accent color in more than the flower. Stick to white table cloths, black dishes, and your accent color in the napkins.
I would not do place cards, people generaly like to sit in groups with those they are comfortable with, this will keep you from having the worry about sitting someone with someone that might not get along or like one another or even speak to one another.
Depending on how many you would like left over. Most will take one cupcake just to celebrate with you. I love the cake top idea and the way the cupcakes are set up on the glass tier stand. That is really pretty. You could use your gerber daiseys in tied bunches around the tables for your decorations. You don't always have to have large elaborate center pieces. You can never go wrong with floating candles ontop of a mirror with flower petals sprinkled around.
Best of Luck
practice dance shoes
i'm doing a black/ivory or black/white wedding (depending on how white or not white my dress is) with a hot pink or fuschia accent.
for the reception i want to do mainly black/white (or ivory) with a little bit of accent color here and there.
1. black or white tablecloths? which ones are easier to rent or find?
2. black or white napkins?
3. black or white chairs?
4. black or white dishes? which is easier to rent? which looks better?
5. where would i put my accent w/ all the black and white? just in the flowers? (which i want to be hot pink gerber daisies)
6.it will be in a small church...how would i decorate an itty bitty white country church w/out overdoing it but still keeping w/ the theme?
7. what are the easiest, cutest, funnest centerpieces i could do?
8. would i need placecards or seating assignments for 60 guests?
9. i want to do cupcakes for my 'wedding cake'. how many cupcakes would be best for 60 guests? i would like some extra left over.
Black and ivory input!?
1. I think black and white are so common for weddings so either wouldn't be hard to find. I'm sure white would be easiest sense it's used the most. Sense a table is a big piece in the room the lighter you keep it the bigger the room is so black tablecloths might make it look darker and smaller.
2. Use a color of napkin the contrasts the color of tablecloth you go with. Like if you use white tablecloths use black napkins. It'll give you a good combination of negative and positive space (dark and light).
3. Match your chairs the tablecloths to keep everything fluid. What about bows for the chairs? These things...
http://www.wedding-ireland.com/images/ch...
(the red part) why don't you do a fuschia chair bow too?
4. I'd say white dishes are going to be the easiest to find but I'm sure you could find some to rent with black decorative accents in them! Something like this...
http://www.plumparty.com/Merchant2/graph...
http://www.gallery19.us/images/630-03358...
http://www.canyoncountrycandleco.com/car...
5. Great choice with the Gerber Daisies! Those are my best friends fave flowers and is using them in hers as well. There are just SO CUTE! Yes def. use the fuschia in the Gerbers. Maybe as centerpieces! Black or black and white vases (Rentable), and just a few Gerbers in each one. That would look super cute! Also the chair covers again is a good way to add your punch of accent color to the rest of the table. My other idea I'll get to in the seating cards question.
6. Do a white isle runner with a black border and then line the border with fuschia petals on each side! I love the way that looks and you can get fake petals (That wont stain your dress), at just about any hobby/craft store. Like this but with the white runner and black border (hot pink petals)...
http://www.theflowerhouseweddings.com/im...
Put white bows (Tulle is great for this and pretty inexpensive) in the pews and stick in 2 or 3 Gerbers.
http://www.maryrose.com.au/images/Pew_Bo...
For the alter just do a large vase of flowers in your colors on the candle tables and maybe some small potted flowers on either side (you or someone you love can take them home and let them live and grow). Sense it's a church the alter should already be pretty decorated right? You don't want to overpower what the church already has.
7. On the centerpieces if you do the ones I suggested above you can rent long vases from just about any rental store and all you'd have to do is take 3 - 5 freshly cute Gerber's and stick them in there (vary them in length so some are taller than others only slightly) and TADA! lol so easy to do yourself.
8. I would only if you want certain people to sit with others. Or if a lot of your guests wont know each other. If they don't know but a few people there it might turn into the seating in the lunchroom back in high school where things get clique-y. If that makes any sense. Then people who may just know you will feel like the odd ones out and wont know where to go. If you are having a sit down dinner where plates are brought out this may also be a good instance for needing a seating arrangement. If none of these apply to you than by no means do you need to spend the extra money! You should have tables reserved for family close to your head table though!
If you do want to do seating cards a cheap way to do it yourself is to buy card stock online. I love this one site called paper and more. They are so nice and have GREAT products! I ordered the pearlescent card stock in silver for my invites and I loved it! this one...
http://paperandmore.com/metallic_paper_s...
If you have a good printer or know someone who would let you use their this is a great idea! It will help you incorperate fuschia into your table decor more as well. Use this paper...
http://paperandmore.com/metallic_cardsto... it's $30.99 for 100 sheets of card stock (thicker paper) and $5.00 to get them cut to size. The only other thing you'd have to pay for is the black ink! I'd get it cut maybe 3 1/2 inches by 6 inches so you can fold them in half and they stand up on their own.
An even cheaper version would be to use hot pink Vellum (tranclusant "paper" that you can print on). It's only $18.99 for 100 sheets and the $5.00 to cut.
http://paperandmore.com/vellum_paper_vio...
Text paper is barely thicker than regular printer paper but it's made of a much better quality and comes in a million more colors and textures. So it wont be thick but would still fold and stand up on it's own...
http://paperandmore.com/metallic_paper_p...
EDIT: I forgot the last question! On the cake I am doing cupcakes too! Exactly like the link you showed except with purple, silver and white. It was cheaper to do cupcakes for us and I like how cute it looks. If you or your family are baking the cupcakes it would be super cheap to go to a bakery and ask for just a 6 inch round for the top tier! You might also want to ask the bakery you go with or your rental store about a cake stand and the different varieties. I rented mine seperately in silver so I wouldnt have to use a plastic one. I like the one used in the link you provided! That cake is gorgious! 6 inch rounds are so inexpensive you could go with just about anyone, get just about any flavor and filling, decorating and frosting and it would still save you more money than having a whole cake made by them. If you want extra I would go with anywhere between 75 and 85 cupcakes. Unless they are super small and bite sized I'm pretty sure that all 60 WONT go for a second one. It also depends on what other food you will be serving. If its a big buffet eveyone will most likely be busting at the seems already. If you're having a afternoon reception it's more likely that people will have 2 cupcakes each so then maybe you'd need more like 120.
I know this was long sorry! I hope one of these ideas or links helps you out a little bit!
Congratulations!
Reply:I am also doing a black and white color scheme. Here's what I have figured so far. (funny, i am doing a cupcake cake too)
1. I was going to alternate black and white cloths, but decided on black
2. with the black table cloths I will have white napkins
3%26gt; white chairs are way easier to find and rent
4. Also, it is easier to rent white dishes, which is how I decided on the black table cloths and white napkins
5. I would do the accent colors with the flowers yes, and possibly a sash or something on your bridesmaids dresses, or flower girl somehow. Also, maybe a splash of pink on your cupcakes or the small cake at the top. Your place cards could also be pink. as well as your favors or favor boxes
6. You don't have to decorate the church. If you wanted to you could do something on the ends of everyother pew such as round pomanders in white or pink.
7. You could just get short square clear vases and put a few daisies in each one. Very easy and simple.
8. I would say go with a seating assignment so that way people won't feel awkward asking..."is this seat taken" it just makes everything easier.
9. I guess 60-70 cupcakes would be good, b/c not everyone is going to eat one.
You can just go to any bakery and ask them to make a small cake that serves about 4 people. Take that picture with you.
Look on www.theknot.com for great ideas for flower centerpieces.
Reply:My opinion is:
* White tablecloths
* Black napkins, with a very thin ribbon white and pink
* white chairs
* White plates.... I would think it is easier to rent
* I think do your flowers very simple, and add some black and pink ribbon here and there but no too much.
* I just made a test centerpiece for my self, feel free to take any ideas.
I got my ideas from this pictures:
http://www.flickr.com/photos/24809251@N0...
http://www.flickr.com/photos/24809251@N0...
And here is my experiment:
http://www.flickr.com/photos/24809251@N0...
http://www.flickr.com/photos/24809251@N0...
http://www.flickr.com/photos/24809251@N0...
http://www.flickr.com/photos/24809251@N0...
http://www.flickr.com/photos/24809251@N0...
I have the seashell theme, but you can put Cristal rocks....
* yes for the place cards
* I heard you are supposed to have from 2 to 3 cupcakes per guest, if the cupcakes are small.
I hope this is of some help..... good luck!!!
Reply:Don't over do on the black if the church is small. Go with white table cloths maybe a small black cloth over the top double layer them. See if you can find the napkins in white with black around the edges. Or go with both, are the chairs being covered or bows on them? If you are placing bows on them then go with the black chairs and white ribbons. You will find that most places have white everything on hand to rent easier than a color. Depending on how large the rental location is. Go with both for the dishes, mix the large plates with the small plates on top, black bottom-white top, next to that one place the white bottom-black top if possible.
You could mix the accent color in more than the flower. Stick to white table cloths, black dishes, and your accent color in the napkins.
I would not do place cards, people generaly like to sit in groups with those they are comfortable with, this will keep you from having the worry about sitting someone with someone that might not get along or like one another or even speak to one another.
Depending on how many you would like left over. Most will take one cupcake just to celebrate with you. I love the cake top idea and the way the cupcakes are set up on the glass tier stand. That is really pretty. You could use your gerber daiseys in tied bunches around the tables for your decorations. You don't always have to have large elaborate center pieces. You can never go wrong with floating candles ontop of a mirror with flower petals sprinkled around.
Best of Luck
practice dance shoes
So far how does this sound & look?
My bridemaides dresses
http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_...
My dress
http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridal_gowns...
blue material going down the middle of all tables at the reception with mirrors about 5" x 5" square with round bowls thin ones, with floating candles and on the bottom of the water in the bowls put blue marbles or stones.. with this form of glitter in the bottom to reflect the lights. The wedding is at 5 or 6.. havent made mind up about that yet. and we are going to have it oustide in a baseball stadium http://www.mississippibraves.com/
my cake looks alot like my dress does with blue flowers here and there.. how does all of this sound so far?
So far how does this sound %26amp; look?
That sounds very pretty. Just make sure you remember to enjoy your big day. So many brides get so caught up in the little details that they forget to enjoy the fabulous party they've created. Good luck in your marriage and on your wedding day!!!
Reply:Wow that sounds beautiful. The bridesmaids dresses are very very pretty and your wedding dress is gorgeous. Your wedding will be awsome. Good job so far!
Reply:I wanna be a bridesmaid! Those dresses are adorable!!
Reply:Sounds amazing, and i totally picked out the same bridesmaids dresses, just in a different color...im so excited GOOD LUCK to you!!
Reply:I've never seen bridesmaid dresses match the bride's like that, they are both really beautiful.
Reply:The dresses are elegant, yet simple. I see you thought about you comfort for the day, which is a really good thing. I love the baseball field!
Reply:Very pretty, love the color of the bridesmaids dresses:)
Reply:Your gown is beautiful!! The bridesmaid's gowns are gorgeous!! Your reception decorations sound amazing and the location is sure to be a "homerun". The sparklers are sure to be a big hit!! You're doing great so far!! Good luck to you and best wishes for a great wedding day!!!
Reply:Ya'll kinda have the exact same dress, only in different colors.
Reply:Looks gorgeous! The bridesmaids dress coordinate so nicely with yours. And it sounds like you've got everything under control for the reception, too!
Reply:The bridesmaid dress isn't really something that could be worn again. I don't mean it's ugly but not many women have use for a prom dress after high school.
the dress is pretty but looks very similar to the bridesmaid dresses.
I like the blue that you chose, very warm. Think about dirt if you are having the reception on the baseball field..that red clay stuff stains really easy. It sounds like it will be a lovely wedding.
Don't give everybody sparklers, just the people who will be on the outside edges or you risk people accidentaly getting caught on fire with sparks. Make sure kids don't get ahold of them.
Reply:my best friend wore that dress for her wedding and we wore those bridesmaids dresses (in peridot/light green) - it's a very flattering style. the dresses looked really nice together. and I love that dark blue color. so pretty.
everything sounds really lovely. I think your tables will look awesome!
Reply:The colors are great. Unless you are a size 6 or less you might not want to wear that bridal gown. Anytime you wear fabric that gathers somewhere it draws your eyes to that part of the body. My friend, who is very skinny, wore that style and looked very thick around the middle.
Reply:Sounds great....you don't need anyone on here to tell you that that is going to be a beautiful wedding! Everything sounds fabulous!
*Good luck!*
Reply:I wore that color as a bridesmaid, and I adored the dress. I love David's Bridal!
Sounds wonderful! Bouquets: carry calla lilies wrapped in the blue ribbon. Best wishes!
Reply:WOW...YOUR WEDDING SOUNDS ALOT LIKE MINE...SOUNDS GREAT. LOVE THE BLUE
http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_...
My dress
http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridal_gowns...
blue material going down the middle of all tables at the reception with mirrors about 5" x 5" square with round bowls thin ones, with floating candles and on the bottom of the water in the bowls put blue marbles or stones.. with this form of glitter in the bottom to reflect the lights. The wedding is at 5 or 6.. havent made mind up about that yet. and we are going to have it oustide in a baseball stadium http://www.mississippibraves.com/
my cake looks alot like my dress does with blue flowers here and there.. how does all of this sound so far?
So far how does this sound %26amp; look?
That sounds very pretty. Just make sure you remember to enjoy your big day. So many brides get so caught up in the little details that they forget to enjoy the fabulous party they've created. Good luck in your marriage and on your wedding day!!!
Reply:Wow that sounds beautiful. The bridesmaids dresses are very very pretty and your wedding dress is gorgeous. Your wedding will be awsome. Good job so far!
Reply:I wanna be a bridesmaid! Those dresses are adorable!!
Reply:Sounds amazing, and i totally picked out the same bridesmaids dresses, just in a different color...im so excited GOOD LUCK to you!!
Reply:I've never seen bridesmaid dresses match the bride's like that, they are both really beautiful.
Reply:The dresses are elegant, yet simple. I see you thought about you comfort for the day, which is a really good thing. I love the baseball field!
Reply:Very pretty, love the color of the bridesmaids dresses:)
Reply:Your gown is beautiful!! The bridesmaid's gowns are gorgeous!! Your reception decorations sound amazing and the location is sure to be a "homerun". The sparklers are sure to be a big hit!! You're doing great so far!! Good luck to you and best wishes for a great wedding day!!!
Reply:Ya'll kinda have the exact same dress, only in different colors.
Reply:Looks gorgeous! The bridesmaids dress coordinate so nicely with yours. And it sounds like you've got everything under control for the reception, too!
Reply:The bridesmaid dress isn't really something that could be worn again. I don't mean it's ugly but not many women have use for a prom dress after high school.
the dress is pretty but looks very similar to the bridesmaid dresses.
I like the blue that you chose, very warm. Think about dirt if you are having the reception on the baseball field..that red clay stuff stains really easy. It sounds like it will be a lovely wedding.
Don't give everybody sparklers, just the people who will be on the outside edges or you risk people accidentaly getting caught on fire with sparks. Make sure kids don't get ahold of them.
Reply:my best friend wore that dress for her wedding and we wore those bridesmaids dresses (in peridot/light green) - it's a very flattering style. the dresses looked really nice together. and I love that dark blue color. so pretty.
everything sounds really lovely. I think your tables will look awesome!
Reply:The colors are great. Unless you are a size 6 or less you might not want to wear that bridal gown. Anytime you wear fabric that gathers somewhere it draws your eyes to that part of the body. My friend, who is very skinny, wore that style and looked very thick around the middle.
Reply:Sounds great....you don't need anyone on here to tell you that that is going to be a beautiful wedding! Everything sounds fabulous!
*Good luck!*
Reply:I wore that color as a bridesmaid, and I adored the dress. I love David's Bridal!
Sounds wonderful! Bouquets: carry calla lilies wrapped in the blue ribbon. Best wishes!
Reply:WOW...YOUR WEDDING SOUNDS ALOT LIKE MINE...SOUNDS GREAT. LOVE THE BLUE
What to do-- Oh What to do...?
So, we originally planned to get married on 08-08-2008. Great day huh! Well, he wants my parents to pay for this great big formal wedding and I don't think its necessary. We don't ahve the money (I have a toddler that I raise on my own) and he doesn't have much of a savings. (I know I know)
My parents are willing to give around 3,000. Here is our breakdown right now
My Dress 350
Alterations 50
Flowers for Bouquets, centerpieces, church: 600
Bridesmaisd gifts 50
Photographer 600
Cake 300
RECEPTION 20.00/person (limited to 100 people)
Invitations 300
and NO honeymoon
But I really want a honeymoon. So I came up with the idea that we elope and go on a honeymoon and come back and have an informal party. My parents are willing to pay for the trip and have my grandparents and his parents pay for the dinner at the party. It wld cost about 2500.00 total. None of the frou frou just whats important, Me Him our closets friends and family.
THis idea also helps include more people
What to do-- Oh What to do...?
Try this compromise:
cheap wedding reception venue, like a private club or organization's party room, could get it for free if a member, or really reduced price. It will be air conditioned, you could have an August wedding.
Nice but inexpensive food, pick one dish like mosstoccoli and salad and bread sticks. Or go appetizers, or small sandwiches. Or even several cold salads[it will be August] and a selection of crackers. Roll in a keg or two, and have something for the nondrinkers. Way less than $20/person.
Do your own centerpieces, try the dollar stores and craft stores for idea and bargains.
Get a cake from the grocery instead of the bakery. Or do cupcakes, even cheaper, and stylish now. Use paper table coverings, they sell rolls of paper cheap.
Then do a three day honeymoon to a romantic spot not far away. There are lots of great scenic spots in my area, with romantic rooms, for not a lot, the highest in the area is $300 a night, for a themed room [like a jungle room] in a hotel, but there are some cabins [think ski resort] near for around a hundred.
I know you would like the romance, but I am afraid someday you might regret not having a wedding and reception.
Gee, a groom that wants a wedding, a rare find, I do not know him or you, but I would take him up on that idea!
Find a cheaper invitations, nowdays the green ecology tree hugger people would love that you did not use the old formal invites with multiple layers of paper..
Consider dumping the photographer for your own pictures, or find someone in the family that does photography.
There is a huge difference in flower prices in our community, the florist a mile from my house would do a nice 12" high arrangement suitable for a birthday for $40, you could not touch a few carnations in a cheap vase for that at another across town. Shop around, and downsize a little, but even I would not skimp on the bouquets for the bridal party, or corsages for honored guests.
Congrats, hope you both get what you want.
Reply:Thanks, voter! Rivers Report It
Reply:I think the only expenses should be what's important to you. Why does he not want to contribute?
Reply:call a travel agent about the honeymoon. tell them your budget and what you are looking for. They can find something within your budget. Also, often you can book last minute and get really cheap deals on cruises. mexico and jamaica is pretty cheap. We are getting a beachfront all inclusive resort room in jamaica for uner 3,000 includes round trip airfare. We went through a travel agent and it really took the guess work out of it. You could also drive somewhere together. I dont know where you live but down south are tons of romantic historic plantations that are bed and breakfasts, the midwest has bed and breakfast/wineries. So, you are bound to find something wonderful, good luck
Reply:While it is traditional for the bride's parents to pay for the wedding, modern times(and our present economy) dictate that that no longer holds true. If your fiance wants a big formal wedding, and your parents cannot afford a big formal wedding, then he better find a way to come up with some big formal wedding money himself! He simply cannot expect your parents to bankrupt themselves to appease his vanity. Remember, it's the marriage that matters, not the wedding.
Reply:Hi and congratulations!
Well, he is being stubborn. It's very unusual, to me at least, that he wants this big wedding....and he wants YOUR parents to pay for it!! Ummm.....no.
I agree with the wedding/honeymoon and then a party when you return.
None of us on here can help you. He is being stubborn. This is something the two of you will need to work out.
One thing about your outdoor BBQ or pig roast. It sounds like a great idea to me.....but more than 100 people? Where will this be.....in someone's backyard? Three things to think about: (1) bathrooms!.....(2) parking.....(3) the rentals that you will need....tables and chairs, etc.
Reply:The ceremony won't cost a lot if it's outside. If you have it in the evening, say, right before dark, it won't be as hot. And all you'll have to pay for is chairs to rent. Use candles from the dollar store to set the mood. If it's almost dark, no one will see flowers anyways if you get them. Then you can have the ceremony and honeymoon. No need to spend a lot on the ceremony part. There's not much to it.
My parents are willing to give around 3,000. Here is our breakdown right now
My Dress 350
Alterations 50
Flowers for Bouquets, centerpieces, church: 600
Bridesmaisd gifts 50
Photographer 600
Cake 300
RECEPTION 20.00/person (limited to 100 people)
Invitations 300
and NO honeymoon
But I really want a honeymoon. So I came up with the idea that we elope and go on a honeymoon and come back and have an informal party. My parents are willing to pay for the trip and have my grandparents and his parents pay for the dinner at the party. It wld cost about 2500.00 total. None of the frou frou just whats important, Me Him our closets friends and family.
THis idea also helps include more people
What to do-- Oh What to do...?
Try this compromise:
cheap wedding reception venue, like a private club or organization's party room, could get it for free if a member, or really reduced price. It will be air conditioned, you could have an August wedding.
Nice but inexpensive food, pick one dish like mosstoccoli and salad and bread sticks. Or go appetizers, or small sandwiches. Or even several cold salads[it will be August] and a selection of crackers. Roll in a keg or two, and have something for the nondrinkers. Way less than $20/person.
Do your own centerpieces, try the dollar stores and craft stores for idea and bargains.
Get a cake from the grocery instead of the bakery. Or do cupcakes, even cheaper, and stylish now. Use paper table coverings, they sell rolls of paper cheap.
Then do a three day honeymoon to a romantic spot not far away. There are lots of great scenic spots in my area, with romantic rooms, for not a lot, the highest in the area is $300 a night, for a themed room [like a jungle room] in a hotel, but there are some cabins [think ski resort] near for around a hundred.
I know you would like the romance, but I am afraid someday you might regret not having a wedding and reception.
Gee, a groom that wants a wedding, a rare find, I do not know him or you, but I would take him up on that idea!
Find a cheaper invitations, nowdays the green ecology tree hugger people would love that you did not use the old formal invites with multiple layers of paper..
Consider dumping the photographer for your own pictures, or find someone in the family that does photography.
There is a huge difference in flower prices in our community, the florist a mile from my house would do a nice 12" high arrangement suitable for a birthday for $40, you could not touch a few carnations in a cheap vase for that at another across town. Shop around, and downsize a little, but even I would not skimp on the bouquets for the bridal party, or corsages for honored guests.
Congrats, hope you both get what you want.
Reply:Thanks, voter! Rivers Report It
Reply:I think the only expenses should be what's important to you. Why does he not want to contribute?
Reply:call a travel agent about the honeymoon. tell them your budget and what you are looking for. They can find something within your budget. Also, often you can book last minute and get really cheap deals on cruises. mexico and jamaica is pretty cheap. We are getting a beachfront all inclusive resort room in jamaica for uner 3,000 includes round trip airfare. We went through a travel agent and it really took the guess work out of it. You could also drive somewhere together. I dont know where you live but down south are tons of romantic historic plantations that are bed and breakfasts, the midwest has bed and breakfast/wineries. So, you are bound to find something wonderful, good luck
Reply:While it is traditional for the bride's parents to pay for the wedding, modern times(and our present economy) dictate that that no longer holds true. If your fiance wants a big formal wedding, and your parents cannot afford a big formal wedding, then he better find a way to come up with some big formal wedding money himself! He simply cannot expect your parents to bankrupt themselves to appease his vanity. Remember, it's the marriage that matters, not the wedding.
Reply:Hi and congratulations!
Well, he is being stubborn. It's very unusual, to me at least, that he wants this big wedding....and he wants YOUR parents to pay for it!! Ummm.....no.
I agree with the wedding/honeymoon and then a party when you return.
None of us on here can help you. He is being stubborn. This is something the two of you will need to work out.
One thing about your outdoor BBQ or pig roast. It sounds like a great idea to me.....but more than 100 people? Where will this be.....in someone's backyard? Three things to think about: (1) bathrooms!.....(2) parking.....(3) the rentals that you will need....tables and chairs, etc.
Reply:The ceremony won't cost a lot if it's outside. If you have it in the evening, say, right before dark, it won't be as hot. And all you'll have to pay for is chairs to rent. Use candles from the dollar store to set the mood. If it's almost dark, no one will see flowers anyways if you get them. Then you can have the ceremony and honeymoon. No need to spend a lot on the ceremony part. There's not much to it.
Does the carpet matter much?
well, i've finally found my church. it's a small white country chapel. inside, the pews and floor is a medium shade of wood..but in the aisle and branching out into the platforms there is burgundy carpet. i had already planned out my colors to be a black and white wedding w/ an accent color of light pink. my bridesmaids will wear black and i wanted them to carry light pink gerber daisies w/ maybe some white ones also. now, im not sure about the carpet w/ the pink...i know burgundy and light pink DO go together but they arent my favorite combo of colors...the people in charge of the church said i had free reign on decorating the church. my reception will be in a different place. should i just keep it all black and white ..meaning w/ the flowers and decorations in the church and then use my black, white and pink in the reception place? or should i just use the pink both places?
thankyou!!!
my dress is ivory btw....should i decorate in ivory or white? i was leaning toward white
Does the carpet matter much?
I think you should replace all the pink with the ivory colour. It would still look really nice. =D
Reply:The church i got married at had burgundy carpet as well and my colors were bright red. I did not pay much attention to the carpet because you can't change it. I think it would look good with the like pink flowers. You might want to add a brighter color to the mix so it does not look to dark with the black dresses and burgundy carpet. Good Luck!!!!!
Reply:Stick with what you already have. No one really cares about the carpet! And burgandy will pretty much go with anything. I didn't include any red in my wedding (well - pink flowers was the closest) and we had a bright red carpet... it still worked ok!
http://www.flickr.com/photos/25906286@N0...
http://www.flickr.com/photos/25906286@N0...
Reply:No one will be looking at the carpet. People know that you have no say over what color the church picked out. Use whatever colors you want and don't even factor in the carpet color.
Reply:you cant change the carpet really. so relax its alright carpet isnt that big of a deal. thank god its burgundy not some ugly brown or grey. yuck!
Reply:Actually, I was wondering about your questions, so I did a bit of research. On theknot website, I read that the color of the walls and carpet will be okay as long as they don't clash. So you should be fine with the burgundy carpet. On another question on this site, people were saying that it was fine to use both ivory and white, but one person pointed out that if the bride's dress is ivory, the white decorations could make the dress appear dirty.....I don't know myself, but it is something to think about.....
Reply:Hi and congratulations!
Pay no attention to the color of the carpet in the church. Don't even worrry about it. I have been to LOTS of weddings, and I couldn't tell you the color of the carpeting (or lack thereof) in the church. People are looking at you and the groom (and at the bridesmaids as they walk down the aisle)....but that is it! No one notices floor colors or the colors on the walls. And, if they do.....well there not much you can do about the colors in a church!
Yes, keep everything as you have it. I would go with the black dresses....the flowers as you have planned (light pink and white gerbera daisies).
If you want to....I would use the same colors of flowers in vases on the altar (or near the altar). Also, you could (if you want), use white bows maybe with a little pink or black in them for the ends of the pews. But this is totally optional.
Yes, I would use the white to decorate with and I would keep the black, white AND pink for both the ceremony and the reception for flowers and decorations.
Good luck and I hope you have a beautiful wedding!
thankyou!!!
my dress is ivory btw....should i decorate in ivory or white? i was leaning toward white
Does the carpet matter much?
I think you should replace all the pink with the ivory colour. It would still look really nice. =D
Reply:The church i got married at had burgundy carpet as well and my colors were bright red. I did not pay much attention to the carpet because you can't change it. I think it would look good with the like pink flowers. You might want to add a brighter color to the mix so it does not look to dark with the black dresses and burgundy carpet. Good Luck!!!!!
Reply:Stick with what you already have. No one really cares about the carpet! And burgandy will pretty much go with anything. I didn't include any red in my wedding (well - pink flowers was the closest) and we had a bright red carpet... it still worked ok!
http://www.flickr.com/photos/25906286@N0...
http://www.flickr.com/photos/25906286@N0...
Reply:No one will be looking at the carpet. People know that you have no say over what color the church picked out. Use whatever colors you want and don't even factor in the carpet color.
Reply:you cant change the carpet really. so relax its alright carpet isnt that big of a deal. thank god its burgundy not some ugly brown or grey. yuck!
Reply:Actually, I was wondering about your questions, so I did a bit of research. On theknot website, I read that the color of the walls and carpet will be okay as long as they don't clash. So you should be fine with the burgundy carpet. On another question on this site, people were saying that it was fine to use both ivory and white, but one person pointed out that if the bride's dress is ivory, the white decorations could make the dress appear dirty.....I don't know myself, but it is something to think about.....
Reply:Hi and congratulations!
Pay no attention to the color of the carpet in the church. Don't even worrry about it. I have been to LOTS of weddings, and I couldn't tell you the color of the carpeting (or lack thereof) in the church. People are looking at you and the groom (and at the bridesmaids as they walk down the aisle)....but that is it! No one notices floor colors or the colors on the walls. And, if they do.....well there not much you can do about the colors in a church!
Yes, keep everything as you have it. I would go with the black dresses....the flowers as you have planned (light pink and white gerbera daisies).
If you want to....I would use the same colors of flowers in vases on the altar (or near the altar). Also, you could (if you want), use white bows maybe with a little pink or black in them for the ends of the pews. But this is totally optional.
Yes, I would use the white to decorate with and I would keep the black, white AND pink for both the ceremony and the reception for flowers and decorations.
Good luck and I hope you have a beautiful wedding!
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